Me and my b/f have been together for a while now and he is having issues trusting me b/c i lied to him one time. So now anytime i go out without him we end up fighting b/c he says he cant believe what i tell him. And it doesnt make it any better that he doesnt like any of my friends either. Everything is great between us until i go out with my friends without him. I love him more than anything and have never felt like this for anyone before and he says he wants to get married eventually but we need to know how to work on the trust issues. Neither one of us know what to do to get it back but will do anything in order to be together.
2006-08-24 16:55:52 · 22 answers · asked by itsa_pinkthing7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take it one day at a time. If you do go out with your friends, text him or call him while you are with them, let him feel you are thinking about him. That will make him feel better. Don't do it once or twice. Do it more often, and sometimes give up the day with your friends and tell him, you know, I think I would just rather spend the day with you. It is good to have your own space, both of you. I think little by little he will trust you, but it will take time. Trust is easy to obtain, but it takes a second to destroy it, and then the mountain is steep, but you can climb back to the top.. Perserverence and faith... anything worth having is worth waiting for and fighting for.. and nothing worth having ever comes easy.. good luck...
2006-08-24 17:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by texas.okie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a long time to regain trust. You are going to have to be willing to be an open book for a long time. He has to be able to count on you to do what you say you are going to do, and be where you say you'll be in order to regain trust. Give it time, once doubt enters a relationship, it is not easy to throw out. Unfortunately, sometimes when trust is broken, you are not able to forget the distrust and move on. I would guess that it is easier to forgive than to forget. If things don't get better in time, you may have to cut your losses and learn from your mistake. Good luck, it sounds like you both really love each other. Remind him, that people are not perfect, and that love is a choice...ask him to choose you.
2006-08-25 00:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a long talk with him where u tell him that u truly love him and that while u can understand that he has a hard time trusting u, he must also know that trust is a must for this relationship to work. tell him that while he is the only love of ur life, he must also know that u have other friends and need some time with them as well. if the talk doesnt work then this may be troubling
2006-08-25 00:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by rulewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to show him that you have regrets, show him all your attention and make everything to prove him that he can trust you again. But that can take a lot of time. Or he may never trust you again. Trust in a relationship is something hard to get back when you abused it.
2006-08-26 00:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by Isabelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never lie to him again and do everthing you can to prove that you can be honest,tell him you didnt think he could handle the truth,perhaps he's not someone you can be open with.tell him you want that in a man,in order for you to be honest,ask him"dont you want me to have all the good qualities that comes with a good man"and whoever says NO TRUST
2006-08-25 00:11:32
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I think if you both want it bad enough you can work through anything. Just dont ever try hiding anything. It will only make life worse. Make sure everything going on is out in the open.
2006-08-25 00:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the one with the problem and he needs to work this out...Do not when you come back in from going out let him bait you into a fight, just tell him in a calm voice...I know you are insecure about this but i assure you, you have nothing to worry about. Just do not argue, that's what he is looking for and it just makes you look guilty if you yell back.
2006-08-25 00:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK everything is not great between you and him. I'm telling you if you have to change who you are to make him happy then your gonna be one unhappy woman. Maybe try counseling if your really that serious about making this work.
2006-08-25 00:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by cat s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. But my dad once told me that trust is like virginity, once it's gone it's never comming back.
Anyways hope you can work things out.
2006-08-25 00:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No trust = No relationship
2006-08-24 23:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by Sukara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋