how to stay a holy christian?

Question

o.k so i so im a teenager 17, and i graduate and go on prom this year, and i have done some of the things that teenagers do now and days like party, and drink, but iam trying to be holy and i have not done those things in months, but its getting hard. now i am a virgin and i plan to stay that way until marrige. But the drinking and partying thing is a promblem for me, so my question is how do i stay a holy christian without missing out on life? how do i still have fun with being a holy christian. Also is drinking a sin, or is drunkeness a sin, or are they both sins. Help please.

Answer 1

God does not expect you to repress yourself on life
as long as you are not getting into trouble you will do fine
God even has a sense of Humor

Answer 2

Girlfriend, if you consider not drinking and partying to be missing out on life, you have a long, hard road ahead of you.

I am 37, and I am a Christian--have been for four years now, although I was raised Catholic. I turned from faith and just recently accepted Jesus. I have spent many years drinking and partying. I have little to show for it...unless you count a regular seat in A.A. to be something to show for 20+ years of partying. All the people I partied with are out of my life. All of the money I spent was wasted on something that came out in my urine. All of the "good times" crashed and burned. I realized that I had been chasing a ghost--believing that drunkenness and high times were the pinnacle of human existence.

You may have to walk that path if drinking and partying is that important to you. If you're talking about once a month or something, then it doesn't sound problematic. But if you're talking a few times a week at least, you are probably headed where I was. Just ask yourself: "What am I gaining here?" Drunken friends are great for distraction and hijinx, but as for true relationships, they're not so reliable. Nothing lasting takes place between constant drunks. At least that's been my experience.

Drinking is not a sin. Drunkenness is described as a sin by Saint Paul.

But in my experience, drunkenness just led me away from everything of value. I had little integrity, little interest in others, a lot of ennui and intellectual pride, etc. What I valued was getting wasted and talking a lot. And what is that? Smoke and mirrors.

If you want to have fun, you are going to have to find out what else you think is fun besides boozing. I can't help you with that since I don't know you. People do all sorts of things with their lives, though, besides drink. Perhaps you should try to do something creative, like painting, photography, creative writing, dancing, acting. Find out what awakens your spirit--and hopefully it will be something other than the spirits that come in pretty bottles.

Answer 3

On the issue of staying a virgin, don't let yourself be in the position of making a decision about sex. Don't be alone in places you will be tempted. Group date when possible. Make prom a big group; get a limo; stay away from those who want to get a hotel room. Make friends with kids in church and encourage one another to do what's right. There are so many ways to have fun that don't involve partying. At this point of your life, drinking would be a sin. It is against the law and the Bible says that we are to follow the rulers of our country. Drunkenness is also a sin. It also causes you to be out of control where you might do some of the things that make you unholy. Search your Bible everyday for the help God can give you. Don't lower yourself to be like all the rest. YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD. Try to act like you are a part of his family.

Answer 4

Catholics drink, dance, and gamble. Moderation is the key. Some Protestant denominations do not believe in doing any or all of these things. You mean you can't go to a party while your friends are getting drunk and making fools of themselves and instead drink a cola or other soft drink and still have a good time? Why not party with other good Christian friends? Of course, there are good people in all religions (as well as good people who practice no religion at all). What your friends do that is not wise is not necessarily a matter of religion. Just because a Catholic, for example, can drink doesn't mean he or she is going to be a wild party-going drunk. So just hang out with good people (of whatever religion) who will appreciate and honor your choices. Such people respect you for having standards and living by them. It's your job to be what you call a good Christian, but it's also your job to be around people who will honor your values and not try to lead you from them. Anyone who ridicules you for having moral values is no friend.

Answer 5

The best way to avoid sin, is to draw closer to God. Get involved in Youth Group, Bible study. Hang around friends that aren't into drinking and partying etc. You're doing a great job!! I want to ask you what exactly your idea of fun is? When I'm around my friends, and we're playing games and laughing or watching a movie, that's more fun than going out and getting drunk. There's a simpleness and a pureness that comes with honest clean fun. Drinking and stuff is fun in a way, but it always leaves you feeling icky because it isn't from God. Surround yourself with friends that have the same values and beliefs as you. God Bless

Answer 6

Get involved with an awesome and active youth group in your area. You can have tons of fun and you get to hang out with some of the goofest, but fun people you will ever meet. As for the drinking, drunkenness is a sin, however you are 17 and the law states you must be 21. So you would be breaking the law if you drink which is also a sin. There is no need to drink to have fun. Find a better group of people to hang with and it wont be so hard. You will even find yourself growing in your faith and that makes it much easier to resist the temptation of the world. You are in my prayers.

Answer 7

Prayer will help you a lot. If you can't stay out from drinking then do it with limitation. If you still want to stay virgin that's good. There's nothing wrong with staying virgin these days. If they laugh at you, all you can say to them is 'At least I'm being smart. Don't want to get pregnant or STD or AIDS or Yeast Infection'. Stay holy is hard, even I can't do it.
My opinion is There's nothing wrong with going out to a party or drinking. It's just when you want to be holy and you go to party and stuff like that, there's always temptation which can lead you to be not holy.

Answer 8

Welcome to the Battlefield! Thank God for this opportunity to show Him just how much you love Him and want to do His Holy will. The Holy Spirit has given you the wisdom to see the perils you will face with your newly found independence.Pray that you will use it wisely.
College life is one of the best times in our lives if not THE best. It is your right to enjoy it to the fullest,but always remember yourself to be God's child first. Its okay to party and enjoy a drink or two but then when you get DRUNK and are not able to define, defend or determine your state at that moment then its a grievous sin. You will expose yourself to all sorts of dangers........i.e having casual sex,getting pregnant, being raped or abused.Therefore always be cautious. You're there, first and foremost to get an education and to move forward in life. Don't jeopardize it.
Ask God always for His guidance. Tell Him you need Him there to guide you.And don't forget to Pray! When you pray and read scripture you fortify yourself in battle.And last and not least recite Psalm 91 as you wake up and Psalm 23 before you sleep. God's angels will watch over you!
Happy College Life! and Good Luck.
God Bless YOU!

Answer 9

First of all, I commend you for being concerned about these things. They are important, and you are at an important place in your life, where you have to decide just how much you want to follow Jesus and, as you are asking, be holy.

There is nothing to be gained from partying and drinking, and everything to be lost. You may think it won't happen to you, but bad things happen to young girls all the times, at parties, in cars. Find some pals that don't think drinking is fun. Where are your Christian friends? They shouldn't be doing this. Not only is it illegal at your age, it's very dangerous. Pray to God to help you and find support, in church, bible study, as soon as possible.

Answer 10

If you want to be a holy Christian, then your going to have to let go of the world. You can't be hot or cold, either your a Christian or not.
Sin is sin, you can't change that.