are diapers the best way to handle bedwetting?

Question

i am 16 and i wet the bed due to stress, i have talked to a doctor and he says that i am fine, other than that i olny get about 4 hours of sleep a night, i am in high school and college (dual enrolment), i am involved with 6 diffrent clubs, and am very active in my church. i also have a job. i need to know if there are better ways to deal with this than diapers. my parents say that i can try something else, but i have to find a way frist. i will be put in a diaper soon if i dont get some good ideas.

oh and i am a boy.

the doctor did not put me in diapers, my parents did, the doc was a urologest (i know my spelling is bad).

i can not stop doing the clubs because if i do then i will lose thousands of dollars in scholarships. i need that money for college, the school i want to go costs over 22K a year.

Answer 1

Get rid of the doctors. My youngest brother had the same problem. One day it simply disappeared. Try natural medicine.

Answer 2

WTF?? High school, college, a job, 6 clubs, active in church and 4 hours of sleep a night?? Something's GOT to go there, man. That is just way too much.

The stress that is making you wet the bed is obviously a combination of you overworking yourself and very little sleep.

At 16 I would say aim for at least 9 hours of sleep per night even if that means dropping some of your normal activities, the first of which I think you should cut is college. You CAN NOT do high school and college at the same time, it's just not possible at any age. But the one thing I would stick with is your church participation, this can guide you through many hardships you may encounter both now and for the rest of your life.

Otherwise cutting back your activities and getting at least 9 hours of sleep should help some of the bed wetting, but there may also be some pills you can take you make you go less often but I haven't run across any for people our age just yet.

Answer 3

Wearing some form of protection is the best way to cope with the symptom you are suffering from (night time incontinence). Depending on your level of incontinence you might be able to use a pad, or a full diaper style breif might be needed. Regardless, containing the urine is the goal. Soaking and sleeping in a soaked bed would not be comfortable and would cause a lot of smell and laundry issues.

As others have pointed out, what you wear to cope with the symptoms is only one part of the issue. You really need to seek medical help to determine if there is something that can be done to cure the source problem. Possible approaches include hormones that control overnight urine production, alarms that train you to wake up when the wetting starts, and ruling out other conditions like diabetes.

If you end up as an adult that suffers from nocturnal enuresis, then you may end up having to wear night time protection for the rest of your life. This is not unusual, but certainly only a small percentage of adults have this problem.

Answer 4

Stop the stress.
You're doing too much, apparently.
If your urologist says that your bladdre is fully developed, it's not physical--it's more psychosomatic. Stop the clubs. Stay active in your church, and stay in school. But decrease your club activities.

To tell you the truth, this is the first thing that your doctor should have told you. If it's not, you need to find a new doctor. Anyone with half a brain can see that you have obviously bitten off more than you can chew at the moment.

Stay in school, stay with church, drop 5 clubs, go part time at your job (if that is finacially possible) and call me in the morning. :)

ps- although the people who have replied suggesting medical or natural (or "leave it alone") remedies mean well, do not listen to them. Your problem has become physical due to an emotional overload--it's a secondary symptom, not a primary.

Answer 5

You just need to slow down. Stop and smell the roses.

You have way too many activities for the number of hours in a day. You say you need the money for college then you need to drop the activities that are not tied to your financial future, that does not mean drop church activities though. Without that you have no future.

You need to run your life and not let your life run you. What is it worth to you to go through all this stress right now if by the time you are 25 you die of a heart attack caused by all the stress? What have you gained?

Slow down, so it takes you an extra year to get where you want to be, so what? I know a year right now seems like a lot of time but it will pay for itself in the future.

I applaud your ambition, if only you could bottle it and share it with so many others that have none. That said, you still need to slow down.

Good luck with what you are trying to accomplish in your life.

Answer 6

OK here it is I wet the bed until I was around 15-16. It is embarrassing I know but it is something that you learn to live with. your parents don't sound supportive of you. You are old enough to make the diaper decision on your own. I would have told my mother where to go and what bus to take there had she tried to get me to wear diapers at 16. My daughter is 2 and we have started her potty training. I bought the pull up training pants they have out now and guess what...they did not help the situation at all. They made me and her lazy. We treated them like they were another diaper. If you really want to get over this than diapers are definitely NOT an option. They have come out and said that bed wetting is genetic, there is a gene linked to it. I would say talk to your Dr. but mine wanted to give me shock therapy! My advice would be to slow down. Take a breath. What clubs really mean the most to you. At 16 do you really need to be enrolled in college?! I mean come on now, you may have all the brains in the world but with out a quality of life what good are they going to be to you in the future. Everyone I know who has wet the bed (mom, dad, uncle, brother, aunt, friend) all grew out of it. Let time take it's course. Do Kegel exercises. And try this, when you start to nod off, that state when you are half asleep and still conscience, mentally put a banana in your pocket, when you are dreaming try and take it out. I know this sounds weird but just try it. If you can accomplish this than you have control over your self while you are sleeping therefore you should be well on your way to being able to wake yourself up to go to the bathroom. Good luck I know how your feeling.

Answer 7

The best way to conquer this problem is with a device that can be purchased at a medical/surgical supply company. There is a strap that goes around your wrist, with a wire attached to it, and the other end of the wire is snapped into the place in your underwear that gets wet first. When you start to wet, it sets of a little alarm that wakes you up so you can jump up and go to the bathroom.

The main thing is that you don't want to get used to sleeping that way. That's why a diaper is a bad idea. If you get wet, always get up and change the sheets right away, then go back to bed.

Answer 8

You need to cut back on your social life and clubs and all of your daytime activities.
If youre only getting a few hours of sleep each night...you are probably needing some extra sleep...you are going right into a deep sleep..and rightfully so...youre mind and body need it.
If you cant change your lifestyle...a suggestion is to set an alarm, or use an egg timer.
Catch up on sleep hon and slow down some.
By the way, at your age...its detrimental to your health not to get at least 7-8 hrs....one way your body is telling you this? your current problem.

Answer 9

mia2kl2002 had the right idea although they also have a mat that you can put on the bed that plugs up to the wall and does the same thing at the first sign of wetness an alarm goes off. Part of the problem is that you don't get enough sleep and when you do sleep it is a very sound one. What we do with our daughter is 2 hours before bedtime she drinks her last drink of water (nothing but water to drink 4 hours before bed) right before she goes to bed we make her go to the bathroom to empty her bladder. We also have a nasal spray that got from the urologist that she takes at night and somehow it helps to prevent the bedwetting. Go to a urologist that deals with children as they offer the best solutions.

Answer 10

Ok, next semester don't take any college courses. Drop 4-5 clubs. Delegate activities at church rather than agree to do all activities.

See another doctor or get a referral to an endocrinologist and get a second opinion. You might also need medication to control the level of vasopressin in your body, possibly blood pressure medication, and you should also get your adrenal glands tested for cortisol production.

Answer 11

your a bit old to be wetting the bed. I suspect an organic problem and you need to see a specialist. No MD of worth would put a 16 yr old in diapers without finding a root cause.

STOP drinking liquids 2-4 hours prior to going to bed. THAT would be a great start to solve the issue personally but i think you have health issues such as bad bladder or kidneys.....SEE A REAL MD SPECIALIST....