Im a christian burning with passion w/o any marriage candidates in sight how do you stay pure?

Question

Im a devout christian and am 25 and have not had sex yet nor have I had my first kiss either. In my past there has yet to be anyone whom I felt that comfortable with or liked that much to become passionate with. All that desire has been building up and is bursting at the seems to come out. I know the bible says its better to marry than burn with passion but Im still single without any marriage potentials about and I cant wait any longer. 2 questions- 1.) How does one continue holding onto their purity when one is in my position? 2) Everyone says if you think about sex too much you wont ever find a girl since it'll come through that thats all thats on your mind- sex. ( Im beginning to think maybe I should have had sex already so it wouldnt be so pressing on my mind)- question 2 is how do you not think about sex when you're a 25 year old male who's a single virgin? In other words, how do I get my head cleared so I dont come across as being so eager to meet the ladies?

Answer 1

I know how you feel but sometimes there's no way around it. I'm 19 and I haven't had sex yet either. It's hard to stay away from ANYTHING like that, I know. I can give you some methods that may or may not help you. Method 1: tell yourself you're not that weak to be tempted, besides, after you do it, you'll just want more now that you know how it feels. So it'd only be worse. Method 2: listen to a pretty song. Seriously, listen to Ayumi Hamasaki's "Butterfly" and think of having sex and you'll find the two don't really go together. One point of advice: the more you let it in, the more you'll want it. Having sex won't solve a thing. Look at it this way: are you an animal or a human? Animals have no mind for the things we do. Our mind is what separates us from them. Sex is animalistic outside of marriage. If you'd like to dilute your own humanity then go right ahead. You have more important things (ANYTHING'S more important) to do then waste your time thinking about stuff like that. Another thing: how do you know Satan doesn't tempt us with something so our minds are distracted from something else we should be doing. Maybe you're an alchoholic and God sends someone that would've helped you with that, but the playboy channel is somehow coming in crystal clear. Great, now you're distracted. There goes that chance for redemption. It might not happen that way all the time but why take that chance? besides just YOUR presence around someone might make them feel better. Anyway, i hope that helped you.

Answer 2

Ooooooh Boy! Well. for starters you're not alone. However if you marry just to extinguish the physical needs, then you're walking into a 'marital' death trap.You'll make yourself and the girl's life miserable. Once you've done it then what? You discover that you're poles apart?And then its over.There are lots of guys who face this dilemma. I would suggest turning to other activities....like sport, lifting weights, or hanging out with friends, or even giving more attention to work or study.
When you get up in the morning, don't just lie down there and think of sex.......men are at their 'peak' when the wake up. So thank God for the day and busy yourself with getting ready to work or something.
This is not a 100% guaranteed answer.....you will fall.....but the effort to remain pure will definitely carry a lot of merit in the eyes of God and in your soul.And when you do fall by defiling your vocation of purity then rise up quickly ask God for forgiveness and carry on the fight!And ask God to find a good bride for you and start looking around for someone mentally and spiritually compatible.God will find the best partner for you!
Oh and forget about the "I should have sex to get it out of my mind.....' That's a lie from the evil one himself. Sure....you'll feel good for a couple of days.After that you will have an overwhelming sense of guilt and regret for the rest of your life.I have been there, where you are now and believe me,I have regretted it ever since! It was then when I realised what 'Satan's empty promises' are!
Onward Christian Soldier!

Answer 3

Pray and ask God friend, many people are in similar situations. Try focussing on saving souls, and God will give you ability to control this. If your not imparting blessing to others which God has given you in Jesus (that is sharing the word) how can you expect God to impart onto you more blessing.

When finding somebody, make sure they are converted. Don't look as though it will be a one night stand. You will find a good Christian woman don't worry. Remember Christian women won't make you feel as passionate either, as they dress in long dresses and long sleeve clothing.

btw - Masturbation is a sin, it is sexual immorality. I have gone a great long time without it. One main reason is because you must think of the act whilst doing it.

Remember sex is to produce babies! So i'm not sure how much of it you will be doing, you must commit to your wife and make plans about children beforehand. If you are unable to support yourself (ie no house job etc) how can you support your wife ??


anyway see if this text helps

Gen 38:9 (KJVR) And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother.
Gen 38:10 And the thing which he did displeased the LORD: wherefore he slew him also. <-- sex is not for pleasure alone !

Answer 4

I think its incredibly sweet and chaste. Stick to your guns...you are doing the right thing. Sex is really supposed to be a sacred act of love. Don't stress over it. Its not everything in life.Just be yourself. When you meet that special "marriage canidate" you will know it. You'll be glad you waited. I was.

Answer 5

the point is that the gay time table is to damage non secular freedom! And if the preferrred courtroom well-knownshows for gay "marriage" through the land next month, it is going to completely damage non secular freedom. in case you do not imagine so, evaluate the couple who owns a flower save in Seattle. They declined doing vegetation for a gay couple's ceremony because it conflicted with their deep faith in God. They offered the couple a itemizing of different florists who might want to do the artwork, yet rather, the couple chosen to sue the florist for "discrimination"! in the journey that they win the tournament, it is going to damage the non secular freedom of the save proprietor! same aspect exceeded off in Texas at the same time as a gay couple needed a photographer to photo their ceremony and the photographer declined because of non secular conflict. The photographer (once back!) offered a itemizing of different photographers who might want to be at liberty to do the artwork, even with the undeniable fact that the couple chosen to sue rather. They gained, yet there's a courtroom trial set and the photographer will be properly represented through a regulation agency that cares about Constitutional rights. it truly is what's inaccurate with what is going on with the gay "marriage" war in united statesa.. And, FYI, 2 adult males won't be able to likely make a wedding ceremony because it takes male & woman. they could call it regardless of they prefer, even with the undeniable fact that it is not marriage!

Answer 6

One Should Not Marry Untill The Lord Clearly Leads You To Do So

Answer 7

If you knew what STD'S all those sweet loving little Christian girls had between their legs you would want to stay single the rest of your life.
Take it from and old man that has been there it ain't worth it!

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Answer 8

Try to keep your focus on Jesus.

You can easily turn down parties, where you KNOW the partying gets out of hand, where you wouldn't have to compromise what you believe in.

When your peers say,"Awwww, come on, you KNOW you want to!!"
Just say "NO!" and mean it!

I'm all for your staying pure. I was a virgin, til I was 25.
One guy told me years down the road--"Every time I tried to get in your pants, and you said 'no', I appreciated you."

When you MAKE UP YOU MIND-----------that's the way it will be. So, you just pray to be the person God wants you to be, and ask Him to use you the way He wants, till HE decides He wants to give you a mate.

Answer 9

the others are good answers. Eventually you will find some one whom you love and loves you. I had a cousin who waited until he was 32 and was very glad he did. To many STD's out there. Some are forever. I hope that you find some one who is your equal.

Answer 10

You are a very rare and honored human in the sight of God... I am praying for you now.... there is a new book out "Every Man's Battle".... it is also available in woman's view as well as young man and young woman... Get it and read it... Your future depends on it.... Sex out of wedlock is sin... and there are consequences you will pay... I know I have.... God will send the right one to you and you will never regret the choice you have made so far... Read that book.... it will help... Almighty God, help this young person to be what you know is best, give wisdom and clarity in this to calm the flesh..in Jesus name I pray...