I have thought for a long time now, and i still cannot find an answering to my puzzling mind problem. Im a proud navy wife, and while my husband is currently deployed, before he arrive home, I, along with our two boys will be moving 5 states away. My family could give two shits less about me and there grandkids moving, but his family is being so very helpful.
My own mother told me that she will not take time off of work to travel to our new home since it was MY decision to marry him, and since I knew what i was marrying into.
What is the shity attitude from my family for? And why is his family, whom i hardly know, willing to help out and care more then my own?
2006-08-24 16:06:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Surround yourself with Positive people. Being a Navy wife is bloody hard enough. Stop contacting or inviting them. They will come around very soon. Especially where grand kids are concerned. Focus on your little group - by that I mean You, your Sailorman and your kids. The rest is a bonus. Good luck. I know it is hard.
2006-08-24 16:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by iluvafrica 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That stinks that you don't have your family's support. You have a big move ahead and if they want to be jerks than just let them. I suspect his parents are aware of the sacrifices that you are going through and that you are lonely. That just shows what a big heart they have. Just be thankful someones helping you and just hope that your parents will come around. As their daughter they should support your decision no matter how crazy or bad they think it is. Best of luck to you!!!!!
2006-08-25 13:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to have to emotionally deal with what your own family is doing the best way you can. But when it comes to your in-laws don't question their involvement, just know that they are there for you and you family and take it for the blessing that it is. They care about their son, and that includes his family. Keep close to them (even if its just by phone), they will appreciate being able to be involved in their grand-kids lives! And good luck!
2006-08-24 23:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by camieg12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats horrible, I am sorry to hear anybody's family is like that, let alone another military wife. Just thank god you have the support of your inlaws and just cut your family lose for now.They will come around eventually, and if they don't its no skin off of your back. They are the ones missing out. You just worry about you and your babies, and let them wallow in their own pity.
2006-08-24 23:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sooo sorry that you are going through this and can completely relate to your situation with it regarding my husband's family. We just lost a child and needless to say they haven't even tried to reach out to us. Its frustrating but just be thankful for the ones that do support you, show you love and are there for you at all times. If you ever need to talk feel free to contact me .. in my profile.
Hugs Mel
2006-08-25 03:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because they understand the military life. The military is all about family and do all they can to take care of their own. Sorry about your own family, but you have your own family now, along with the military family.
2006-08-25 00:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry your mother is so difficult.
I hope your Mother in Law is like me - I have 3 children by birth & 3 children by marriage. I love them all, I treat them all the same - same type gifts, same phone calls & etc. My Daughter by marriage has an Army life with my son, when he is gone I wait for invitation & go stay a while with her. I have been in delivery room with my grand daughters births. Her Mom could not come.
I love her & she loves me & we share a great love for my son.
It all amuses my husband that I am so attached to my children by marriage. At least one calls me everyday to chat
Good luck at your new home. My prayers are with you.
2006-08-24 23:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because his family actuallys cares for there son and his kids and you...While your parents only care for themself. Your husband's parents know how hard it is having there son away from you and his two kids. Soo they sympathies with you. Your family doesn't know how hard it is for you. and it doesn't seem like they give a Fxck..sooo just don't let them get too ya. if u need to talk you can talk too me I'm a really nice person.
2006-08-24 23:16:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'll tell you even though you probably either dont want to hear it or wont like it. Sometimes, families have children they really dont like for one reason or another. Its probably not your fault, but I cant say with any degree of accuracy since I dont know you.
2006-08-24 23:41:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you may have lost your birth family temporarily but think of the one you have joined. not just your husbands family. but the u.s. military family.
2006-08-25 04:17:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋