I met a guy the other week. We went out on a date. The next day he asked me to his place. I thought this is a good sign. Well when I got there he said, I dont know what you came here for but I dont want sex right now. I think we should just be friends, I got to much going on in my life.
The next week, I go out with this other guy and we go on a date. We like each other hugs and kisses. I go back to his place with him and we have sex. Afterwards he seems unfriendly to me and hesitant. He has not spoken to me since that night.
My question is which one is better at ditching me? The first one or the second one?
2006-08-24 15:21:57 · 27 answers · asked by sharon s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the first
at least he didn't use you for sex
2006-08-24 15:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by scarletts_mommy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both were fine with ditching you. The question is, why were you so sexually aggressive when you hardly knew these men? Man number 1 maybe wanted a relationship with you and obviously felt you coming on strong when he had to come right out and say no to sex. Man number 2 decided to see what he could get (a very common plot among men, lol) and when you gave away all on the first date, it showed him you are not girlfriend material for him. Rather, just a one night stand or booty call the next time he is lonely. So they both ditched you in appropriate ways. In my opinion.
2006-08-24 22:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first one probably likes you, and wants to be friends since he has a lot going on in his life. He sounds like he respects you, too. The second one used you for sex, and then ditched you.
Not sure what you mean by "better at ditching" you. The first one didn't ditch you, he was honest about what he wanted. The second one ditched you. I say go for being friends with the first.
2006-08-24 22:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first one. At least, even though he lead you on, was decent enough to say he didn't want sex and said that you two should be just friends. The second one was and is a jerk!
2006-08-24 22:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by chiguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first one
2006-08-24 22:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by THICKCHICK426 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The second one!
2006-08-25 03:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by celia3018 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to stop sleeping with every person you meet - sorry honey, but few guys want someone that loose - they figured they're nothing but physical with you. Why don't you wait until you actually know someone before you take your clothes off with him? You might find that he sticks around when there's more to the relationship than sex.
2006-08-24 22:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first guy had some respect for you.The second guy just used you for what he could get and out for the next girl.
2006-08-24 22:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which one is "better?" One took what he wanted from you for himself & the other stopped a relationship because of what is going on in his life. Does it matter? What do you want out of a relationship & how do you start a new one without including yuor relationship with those two?
2006-08-24 22:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by Counselor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first guy for sure does not know what he wants. the second guy knows what he wants got what he wanted and is done as they say wham bam thank you maam. Sorry but those two seem like jerks i would not eve waste a tear or my breath with them.
2006-08-24 22:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by michelle_justice25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I was the second guy and I didn't ditch you. I lost your phone number and address.
2006-08-24 22:29:58 · answer #11 · answered by kram k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋