ok There is this guy, we've been really close friends for a year. He said he is afraid that i will fall for him and he will have to break my heart. But when i ask him what he wants in a girl his decribition describes me and when I talk about guys I like He ignors the subject. Does he realize he is describing me and is he doing it on purpose or is it just odd?
2006-08-24 15:18:20 · 14 answers · asked by trouble08132000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK I remember guys like this when i was younger. The problem is...He does really like you. But deep down inside he doesn't want to loose that friendship with you," IF" it doesn't work out as a "RELATIONSHIP". So what do you do?? You act like you don't like him like that anymore..act like you found someone else that is so HOTT and share this information with him. You will see a change in him right away. But remember this, IF you don't feel 100% about being in love with this guy. Don't mess up the friendship relationship. IT's not worth it!
2006-08-24 15:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by poophead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask him why he will have to break your heart if you are together with him. Maybe he's shy and afraid to lose the close relationship between you two. I think he certainly likes you, but yet afraid. Maybe he doesn't want to hear what you like about guys, because he thinks you probably won't add him in there. He maybe shy about this so give him some time and don't rush into things. I'm sure he realizes that he 'is' describing you. He isn't doing this on purpose. He does have a purpose as to why he described you. Like I said, give him time and eventually he'll let you know.
2006-08-24 22:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by *a∙e∙r∙i∙t∙h* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, stay friends with him and that is it. Why would you want someone who is not capable of communicating his wants. The game he plays today will be the game he plays tomorrow. He is already telling you his plans for hurting you. The reason he is doing that is because history repeats itself and he probably has hurt many before you. The sad thing is that he recognizes his opportunity and he chooses to handle it by forewarning the intendee and then he can remove himself from any responsibility later by simply saying, "I knew I would hurt you." Never accept anything when it comes to your happiness. Go after the one that goes after you. Men are sportsmen and enjoy the hunt, so let them hunt. The minute you become an open, easy to read book that is the minute he will move on to the next prey. Think about it don't you hate it when a new movie is released and you have been anticipating seeing it, only for a friend to tell you all about it. You loose interest and wait for it to be released on DVD. Don't give him the satisfaction make him pay for the movie.
2006-08-24 22:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by sigmagammarho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know him and I don't know you, but my guess is that he really values your friendship, and is afraid that if it goes romantic and fails, then he will also lose a good friend and partner.
Or, he knows himself really well and that he's not one for commitment, and because you're friends he wants to spare you that pain.
When "you" hear the description it sounds like you, but it may not to him - because he may say he likes someone with energy, and you're thinking you're energetic, but what he means is someone who can run 10 miles on the beach, not go shopping for 15 hours straight.
You can choose to be a friend to him, and know that it will probably not go anywhere, or remove yourself from his friendship, so that your reason for looking for other men isn't clouded by his friendship. The second option is healthier, although more painful at the start.
2006-08-24 22:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't really know. the whole situation sounds odd. what kind of person tells you that he would have to break your heart if you fell for him? that's just mean. if he has the heart to tell you that, then maybe he really doesn't like you in that way. if you've been friends for a year, maybe that's all you should be - just friends. that way, neither of you get hurt.
2006-08-24 22:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's playing head games. Besides, I wouldn't get involved with someone who pre-warned me that he would break my heart...And what kind of friend is he talking to you like that? You sure you want to be close to a guy like that? Seems like if he were any kind of friend he wouldn't disregard you or your feelings.
2006-08-24 22:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by Teoshe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes really into you but hes just afraid that if anything goes wrong in your relationship (if it happens) then u guys wont have that friendship afterwards. maybe you should sit alone and talk to him about what u two think
2006-08-24 22:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by Joktan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How close fried can so stupid - let him grow up.
Find somebody without problems on himself.
Friends are for friends not for bull shieting .
2006-08-24 22:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he afraid breaking your heart, maybe he cheated or broke others hearts before ad afraid of it happeing again. or he afraid geting serious with any one and cares for you to much.
2006-08-24 22:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by lutusbee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just wants the sex the min. you tell him you love him you wont hear from him againhe ignores you cause he dont f@#@#@ care ! i think i dated and lived with the same guy wa. state
2006-08-24 22:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by transplanted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋