HI I am 19 almost 20 and my husband is 21 almost 22 and we want to become foster parents. most of the sites I have been looking at says you have to be 21. Does anyone know if it is aceptable for only one of the parents to be 21 and the other to be a bit younger? Does anyone have any experiance? or any website for me please help!!! Thank you and God bless
2006-08-24 15:16:47 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the rules are there for a reason
you need to mature a bit.
Instead of trying to get around the rules, why don't you try to be a big sister or volunteer somehow with kids. You and your husband need to have time alone and cement your marriage before you take in troubled kids. You are still a kid yourself.
2006-08-24 15:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by clair 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the agencies and ask.
You must be at least that assertive in life if you hope to be a good foster parent.
That's the wonderful thing about kids - they compel you to grow if you are to do right by them. There are wonderful kids out there who need you. I've known so many foster kids who were damaged their whole lives by people who only took them in for the money and couldn't show them the warmth and eagerness to parent you seem to feel.
If you must both be 21, and that might be for legal contract-type reasons, spend the next 2 years learning everything you can about child development and the needs and presentations of abused kids (and enjoying talking on the phone uninterrupted or showering whenever you want to.)
You can slowly and cheaply shop for the items you'll need and be signed up through the agency, checked out, and ready to go on your birthday. My parents had to take courses and get passed through a fairly long process to become foster parents, so get started!
Make the calls!
2006-08-24 15:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both too young.
It is much harder to be a foster parent, than simply a parent. Rules, regulations, classes.
Although it is a good things to be a foster parent, the obligation is likely much greater than many people your age can handle well.
2006-08-24 17:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by J. C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until your a bit older. You will be making a life-long difference in a child's life and if you're not up to the task you can do major damage.
Put the welfare of the children above your desire to help them.
There will still be thousands of children still in need of a family in 2 years.
2006-08-24 15:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your local social services or foster parenting agency.
2006-08-24 15:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by sigmagammarho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask them if they think ur ready
2006-08-24 15:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋