I only found out i had one when i was 9 and she came to live with us for a few months then she left and i havent seen or heard from her since.Now after my mum kicked me out and we no longer speak or anything(thank god for that) i find out from my brother that she has been in contact with her, i ractically had to force her to give me an address, but she is like 19 or something now and what am i suppose to do, hi remember me, yeahs so hows life, mines ****.What if she doesnt wanna know me or remember me and i have no idea what lies my mum has told her about me, but i dunno she is my half sis and i dont have anyone, but what could i possibly say, or should i not bother?
2006-08-24 15:09:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i cant call i dont have a phone number and i cant visit cause she lives in another state, but if i write her a letter what should i say?
2006-08-24 15:24:39 · update #1
I would say your right and your mum has already put the boot in , so how about getting your own life sorted first after all you have not seen her for 10 years now so whats a couple of months or so , and then visit her , with your own proud face that you are OK and not visiting on the rebound of being thrown out by your mum and then she can see your not visiting for something,
Good luck ,
take care p
2006-08-24 15:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by pete 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is contact your half sister and find out what has been said about you and straighten things up. If nothing has been said then at least you'll know, but breaking the ice will be the hardest part if you can get that part over with things will be a lot easier. If things don't work out then at least you know that you tried and don't have to have it hang over you. I may be wrong, but at least if you break the ice things will be better. Ask her to have coffee or something. Just trying to help.
2006-08-24 15:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say go for it,so what with what your Mom said,If your sister is mature enough I'm sure she would know better than to fall for your mom's lies,she needs to see the other side of the story,she needs to spend time with you to know what kind of person you are.It would be best for you to contact your sister it is better than to have to wonder that "what if?" .Just ask her would she like to meet up somewhere and talk do a little shopping.Go spend some time with your sister.I will pray for you and your family.God Bless you.
2006-08-24 15:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by Roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to just call and say hello.
i have a half sister i haven't seen in 37 years. i call her every couple of years and leave it at that. although, i've pretty much written her ignorant ass off at this point. (she believes all the drama her mother says about my father and considers him some kind of threat even though she has been made aware he resides in a nursing home and has alzheimers). i say good ridance and you may find the same thing with yours. BUT, you might end up with a wonderful relationship. it's worth a try.
2006-08-24 15:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this issue will not go away for you. You need some closure. Who cares what she thinks or if she has been told lies about you. You know the truth and if your heart is in the right place, God will move things to cater to your desires.
2006-08-24 15:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's ur family. And u need somebody to come to right now. So why don't u try her-ur life might bcome happier and u2 could get in a good realationship and do sister stuff. It doesn't matter if shes only ur half sister-she is ur sister! :-)
2006-08-24 15:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter and ask her if she would like to have lunch some time, so you can talk and get to know each other.
2006-08-24 15:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by Izzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should contact. She is probably feeling the same way that you do. At least give a courtesy call and then you will know what to do then.....
2006-08-24 15:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by Mid S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are fearing rejection. She is your sister, and she should have no reason to reject you. However, you have no relationship with her now, so if you write to her and you don't get a great response, you have lost nothing. However, it is likely that you can establish a relationship with her if you do write!
2006-08-24 15:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though shes only ur half sister, shes still family. dont be afraid. family is the most important thing in the world.
good luck.
2006-08-24 15:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Ennael♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋