work on Saturday (which he normally has off). That means he won't be ready to go until at least 6:30. The wedding is at 3 and the reception starts at 5:30. Would it be alright if I went without him and took my daughter as a fill in until he arrives? I hate going places like that by myself but it's the only thing I've had to look forward to all summer and I even bought new clothes for it. What is the proper etiquette in this situation? My daughter is 15 and said she'd do it for me.
2006-08-24 15:01:35 · 18 answers · asked by Dellajoy 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you've met the person who's getting married, it would be fine for you to go with your daughter. Your significant other can catch up with both of you at the reception.
2006-08-24 15:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by johntadams3 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you have a loyal daughter and yes, either you could go there or your daughter could (if only one it should be you); but I think both of you should do it. That would show an even greater support to your bf's co-worker. At times I have felt uneasy myself in those sitations, but sometimes it is necessary to do a duty when someone in the family cannot and needs your help.
I think the real issue here is the question of why your bf's boss put your bf in that situation. I know sometimes things like that are unavoidable and I'm sure that you both have tried everything in your power to have the scheduled work day switched back. But if it is a situation of a bad boss and reprisal, that's a different situation.
2006-08-26 01:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to have your SO mention the situation and ask the coworker about it. This gives the coworker the chance to say whether or not it would be a bother. I don't see why it would be, but the coworker might.
When I invited my coworkers to my first funera.....I mean, wedding, I wouldn't have noticed if their significant others or spouses had attended earlier on without them. I was too busy trying to figure out how to get the best angle with the borrowed videotape camera on a tripod of a place where we weren't standing, yet, making sure everybody had finished their parts in the preparations, and to comfort my fiancee in her nervousness and convince my brother (who married us) that she was nervous about being wed in front of all those people, not about being married.
2006-08-24 22:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by brightpool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you cannot take your daughter. Wedding invitations are NOT interchangeable-- specific peopel are invited to weddings BY NAME. They invited you and your husband, so you two are the only people who should attend under that invitation.
Why didn't your husband request off work, since he accepted this invitation?
Your husband should contact the couple and ask if it is OK that he only attend the reception (he should head there straight from work), while YOU will attend both. That will at least mitigate most of the rudeness of his missing the wedding you two RSVPed YES for.
2006-08-24 22:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your significant other decline the invitation on the grounds of a work commitment. You should not attend with your daughter in his place.
Have him take you out for a fantastic evening, some time soon, so you can enjoy your new outfit.
2006-08-24 22:17:46 · answer #5 · answered by shermiegyrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact the couple or their RSVP number and make sure it is okay. I'd say it'll be okay unless they have an age restriction for guests - some people do.
It's a pity your significant other can't call in sick on the day - just make sure the boss isn't going to the wedding before taking that option!
2006-08-24 22:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by ausbabe29_megan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Has he tried explaining the situation to his boss? Just a thought! If he can't go and you want to then it would totally be appropriate you can at least have the opportunity to explain you situation to the people during the reception so they don't just think you snubbed them and didn't show up at all...
2006-08-24 22:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kewl__Kat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure it's alright for the daughter to be there too. She wasn't invited; dinner or other things might be set for a certain number of guests. But yes, that should be fine. Have fun!
2006-08-24 22:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you have your daughter dress up in his clothes and then they'd think he was there..and when he could actaully arrive..they could make a switch? No one would know the difference. You see that done all the time on tv.
2006-08-25 01:45:41 · answer #9 · answered by GoldnHart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just take your daughter because you did r.s.v.p for 2. Now when he arrives the food will probably have been served by then so it will not be an inconvienience for the bride and groom, to feed your daughter i'm sure they don't want a plate to be thrown away. Just apologize and tell them he will be a little late.
2006-08-24 22:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by Alucard 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋