I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half.. I havent really been getting a long with my family at all lately and i've been staying at his house for the past week or so.. well he said he was going to drop me off so he can run some errands today and i was like okay, well he ended up not running his errands and he hung out with his friend all day.. then he took his friend to some interview thing, and he had soccer tonight and he said that he would pick me up to go to his soccer game.. and now he says he doesnt have time to and he'll catch up with me later... is it right for me to be pissed off? cause I am...
2006-08-24 14:32:46 · 21 answers · asked by fruity9945 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes, you have a right to be mad, becuase he just ditched you and lied to you. BUT, maybe he just needs some space for a little while.. guys are like that...
2006-08-24 14:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by BradsBaby 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely all right and normal to be pissed off. I will be as well. However if you ask me if it is right, I would prefer to say that this is not a matter of who's right or who's wrong. You want the time with him and he wants his own space... In that sense, there is nothing wrong with that. The fact that you are staying with him means that he gets to see you almost 24/7. So give that poor guy a break and let him hang out with his friends. And hey, I think he too wants time with you since he has offered to pick you up for a soccer game. Enjoy the game with him and i'm sure he will appreciate you for that.
2006-08-24 21:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you feel pissed off, you are and that's okay. Secondly, have you guys talked about your living situation? Cuz people need space, even if they love you! Maybe he just feels bad saying "I'm going to go hang out with my friends". Maybe he thinks you will be hurt. Would you be? Why? You need to think about that- are you expecting him to hang out with you too much? Just a thought. And maybe he really didn't have time to pick you up- could be an honest mistake. Give him room to breathe but talk to him about it- tell him he doesn't have to lie to you, its not good for the relationship.
2006-08-24 21:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by alizarinlily 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE been with him every day for the past week and a half...he needs his space. Give him a few days and if he still is avoiding you then talk to him about it....maybe there is something bothering him and he needs to work it out, without you.....Let him know you are there for him if there is something wrong, but over all, give him some space right now.....he is obviously acting this way for a reason.....hope everything works out!!
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2006-08-24 21:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by Brittany B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. Guys aren't like girls. When they're in a relationship they still manage the time to hang out with his friends. Girls on the other hand would rather spend all (if not most) of her time with her boyfriend. Just give him some space and time. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. The good news for you is that he's spending his time with his guy friends and not cheating on you.
2006-08-24 21:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by aznangel5492 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ignore your feelings. You should be pissed. He's taking your feelings for granted. When a woman ignores her feelings, things go down the crapper. Keep him in line by bringing this up to him and telling him how angry you were with this treatment. It will only get much worse if you ignore these things, then when he dumps you, you'll feel that much worse because you overlooked all this stuff.
2006-08-24 21:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well yea you should be pissed off because he tells you something and then not do it..but at the same time you are living at his house and probably all over him..so he wants to get away from you..and hang out with his friends and probably have the life he had without you living at his house day in and day out
2006-08-24 21:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well yes, you have a right to be pissed, to an extent.
The guy is probably not ready for such togetherness, and needed some space to himself. Let him be, for now. If it happens more and more, time to go, honey.
2006-08-24 21:37:55 · answer #8 · answered by deb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to give the poor guy some breathing room. I mean, it sounds like you guys are just high school kids. He isn't ready to play house. Take the hint.
2006-08-24 21:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by Gypsy Rose 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yeah its ok to be mad but they are rite you guys need your space. when i was younger my husband boyfriend at the time had planned on staying in all nigh when i went to work i get home to his house and everyone is gone i had no note or anything i was kinda worried they all went out bowling they never do stuff like that and my husband was under age at the time but came home drunk he had his Friends and family with him and i felt so left out. i had to work for money and he had it all handed to him on a silver platter so i was jealous and hurt because they never did stuff like that when i was around. well needless to say i got over it and you will to. go do something with your friends, and leave him home:)
2006-08-24 21:48:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋