2006-08-24 14:14:50 · 15 answers · asked by BabyPrincess REAL JAMAICAN QUEEN 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Truth hurts.... if hes going to hurt when you leave there is nothing you can do to ease it. The sooner the better so he can get on to the healing part and move on with his life. That takes time. I would think the best thing to do is when you leave don't go back and don't contact him. He will need a good period of time to clear his head and become a new person.
2006-08-24 14:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably can't. No matter what you do there will be some pain, all you can do is try and limit it. Without knowing specifics it's hard to say but I'd say you have two choices. Honesty or some elaborate story. As a man I'd prefer honesty but that's easier said than heard.
My best advice is to be honest. Tell him why you want to seperate. He may surprise you. Nine years is a long time, have you been living toether? Just dating? Is this a childhood romance that has outgrown itself?
I wish you the best of luck and suggest you take this response, the others you will get and your own experience into consideration and then go with what you know inside is right. Even if it's the toughest choice.
2006-08-24 21:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by thudder77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that long before now, you should have both made a committment to each other to become engaged, then subsequenty married, or split. Although I'm a firm believer in long engagements, this seems ridiculous. What was your relationship, just want of wasting your lives? How old are you now? How old is he? What was the purpose for burning up these years?
And the advice about "making him hate you" is absurd. It's hard telling what he might do.
2006-08-24 21:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell him exactly how you feel . I think 9 years is certainly long enough to know where this relationship is headed. Sensitive or not it's time to cut the strings.
2006-08-24 21:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by Lee M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem, but the relationship didnt last nearly as long. 9 years is a long time, if you're 100% sure that u want to leave him, then i found that telling the truth is the best way... explain to him how you feel, since u've been with him for 9 yrs, he should understand.
2006-08-24 21:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by Eddie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you need to meet him somewhere to talk to him. Just tell him getnly but honestly, that's it's not working anymore. I would do it the sooner, the better. It might hurt him, but if you aren't happy now. It's not fair to you to be stuck. Good luck.
2006-08-24 21:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to tell you that after that long a time, there is no way to leave without hurting him.
2006-08-24 21:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him this realtionship has run it's course. it isn't going to happen without hurt. we get comfortable with someone, and it is scary to think of being with someone new, but trust me. people don't break, we are stronger than we think.
2006-08-24 21:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by Alicia Davis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! change his dirty diaper and give him a bottle of milk. put him to bed read him a story. oh yea almost for got! tell him that you are leaving and thats it. let him deal with it,(like a man).
2006-08-24 21:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out of the city
2006-08-24 21:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋