parents do you look to see what your teens are doing on myspace?

Question

i am a mom of a 3yr girl. i know myspace can be a curse to parents. i recently reconnected with college friends through there. but even on this site when you look at someones info it will give a myspace page link. well i just linked onto one from here. the things the person says on here make her sound adult, so i was curious and looked. well she is actually only 15 but there are 35-50 year old men leaving dirty comments on there and this girl actually communicates with them. is there anything that can be done to get these girls and men to stop doing it. im only 28 but we didn't have something like this when i was growing up, i am scared as to what will be around when my children are older. so my question is, is do you get into depth what your kids do on there, do you liknk onto their friends and make connections that way because right now i am scared for our children. there are too many pervs out there. (sorry so long)

just to let everyone know i am not on myspace "all the time" nor do i have a page on there you can go on there and look and that is how i found old friends. i left messages in there email.

Answer 1

YES I DO READ WHAT THESE KIDS ARE POSTING ON MYSPACE.COM. I TOO HAVE AN 5YR OLD, AND A 14YR OLD.
I MONITOR MY 14YR OLD'S MYSPACE PAGE. I BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN REPORT TO 'TOM' ON MYSPACE, HE IS THE GUY THAT ID YOUR FIRST FREIND ON YUR MYSPACE PAGE AND HE TAKES CARE OF SITUATIONS SUCH AS THAT SITUATION YOU WITNESSED. ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS CLICK ON HIS PICTURE 'TOM' AND SEND HIM AN EMAIL. HE'LL BE GLAD TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION.

Answer 2

My girls are way too oyung to be on ther (2 1/2 and 1 1/2). I have a myspace to keep in touch with family and friends from high school though. My best friend has one as well. She is 20 years old and her mom has added her as a friend. Even though she is obviously an adult, her mom is able to see who she is talkin to and everything.

Answer 3

properly, i'm a make certain and that i have not began to allow my youngsters get a myspace profile for this very reason. There are issues on myspace i don't believe of i need my youngsters to make certain hence, i do not enable them even bypass on there. I,on the different hand, do have a myspace and if there is something they need to carry close or want to seem up a pal I do it for them and no matter if that is something i do not want them to make certain or comprehend I at the moment signal off and close out of it. most of the time it in all fairness harmless yet in certain situations i visit go back for the length of something i do not want them to make certain.

Answer 4

I tell you exactly what i am going to do when my girls get older they are not going to have a computer in their room for one and second i will have software that will not let them enter chat rooms or myspace or anything that is not school related.I know that sounds harsh but i am their parent not their friend and thats how i am gonna have to view things.I will explain in detail why they can't visit these sites and that will be that.If parents would do this there would be alot less of this kind of thing going on.

Answer 5

I watch very closely EVERYTHING my kids do. If they are outside at a friends house and they want to go play in side they have to come let me know before they go. I also plan on once my children get old enough to be on my space without me right there seeing what's being sent to them and typed to others installing a key-logger(it will log everything that's typed and it will record all websites they go to as well as take snapshots of the pages that they are on)

Answer 6

My daughter is too young for myspace, but if she ever was on it, I would totally monitor it. There are so many child predators out there that use it in order to meet young kids.

Answer 7

I would not allow my children to use myspace. I feel there are too many predators out there. I will monitor their use on the computer and they will not be allowed to have a computer in their room.

Answer 8

I watch closely what my little sister does on that site. I hate it! She has gotten more nasty contacts than any actual "friends"

soon enough, I'm going to erase it and send her outside! Maybe take her camping or sign her up for softball.

Answer 9

We never let our daughter on. We blocked it and it still is the best thing we did. Why take the chance. Just monitoring it is not enough. Anything can happen.

Answer 10

myspace is definately scary. i'm in grad school and they recommend we delete our accounts so employers dont make bad impressions of us when we go out into the "real world". my friend has a daughter she caught using myspace, and her daughter didnt understand the risk of posting her picture, her real name, and middle school's name and city. when my friend read her daughter's profile, she also noticed scary boys/men leaving remarks. of course we had to explain to the kid how anyone could just pull her up, her pic, and wait for her with a big scary van with no windows, calling her name as school let out for the day.
my opinion is, as a parent, you should monitor everything they do, even though they will hate you for it, kids just arent going to tell you everything. a little research into their personal lives and thoughts will help solve issues before they become problems. for example, in high school, one day i found out one of my friends had been taken away to a hospital and put on suicide watch. of course his friends (myself included) and his parents didn't know what he was battling with internally, but he did, as it turns out, keep a journal, with all of his thoughts clearly written. if someone had seen that journal, maybe things wouldn't have gotten as out of hand as they did. also, rememer to lead by example and delete your profile, or make it private! How can you tell your kid to not do something, if they witness you doing it all of the time?