How do you get a five year old under control after two weeks of school?

Answer 1

try settling him down and make him aware of his behaviour

Answer 2

you should by the book, "how to get a five year old under control after two weeks of school". it really worked for us.

Answer 3

Setting up a reward system for good behavior with peer influence really helps. Make a point to make the rewards known to all so that the child that is out of control will look up to being good as a goal.
With my 3 little brothers (then age 7, 5, 3) I made a point of telling them the proper way to behave, and continuously reward them for good actions by allowing them to use the "Magic Coloring book" or giving them a small pre-lunch snack.

Answer 4

every person should be under control, and the goal of a parent should be to teach a child to control himself. your goal as parent should not be to shut down undesirable behavior through external controls. remember, the goal is to teach your child to control himself. Beating, yelling, external punishments do not teach that. They teach fear which only works as long as you're bigger or have something they want. It's a lousy basis for a parent-child relationship and a lousy way to teach self-discipline.

When children are distressed, depressed, angry, or just way over stimulated, their self-control disintegrates (as you'll observe in many adults.) You don't beat the kid into shape, you find out what's going on and help them solve the problem.

It must also be said that five years old is really too young for most children to successfully separate from their mothers. This pain is dismissed and even mocked, and so boys learn to hate their attachment to women, to feel ashamed of wanting nurturance and closeness. And we wonder why so many guys back away from nurturance and committment.

People love to advise hitting and yelling and isolating and saying whose the boss, and no one says - find out what's going on inside the child.

and we wonder where all these violent uncommunicative people come from.

I decided to homeschool our sons when I would take my niece to her private K and watch in horror the ugly way boys are treated in preschool and K. No wonder they hate school by 3rd grade. Some people can't arrange their lives to homeschool, but they can certainly arrange their minds to be sensitive, to realize that when their child is acting out, they are trying to communicate something. I guess they can't learn to use their words if mommy doesn't know how to use hers, if she can only whup a** to quote people here.

I never ever ever tolerate bad behavior from our children. But I don't abuse them with yelling, physical punishment (hey - if it makes your kid afraid, it's abuse), or angry emotional neglect. I teach them how to act, how to control their emotions and be respectful to their parents, siblings, self, and others, what our expectations are. It might take a little more thought than whacking a kid, but it will produce a much better person in the long run, as well as a much happier person.

Answer 5

Transitions are difficult for some children. My child just started first grade, and he has been a behavioral nightmare for 3 weeks. It 's like he wants to know that his younger brother and I aren't out having fun while he's at school. Sit him down, and explain that he has to get a grip.

Answer 6

Your child will settle down soon. My kids always do that at the beginning of "change" like the beginning of school or close to the end of school. It will calm down soon, hang in there.

Answer 7

What do you mean under control. At 5 they should be trained to your commands and when you hand them off to someone(school, babysitter, friend, camp) they should know how to behave. Worse case you got to beat that *** other wise they will walk over you.

Answer 8

I used to teach kindergarten. Five year olds are normally delightful. If your child isn't, then you need to give him/her extra attention. Something is bothering him/her. ASK.

Answer 9

are you the parent or the teacher? as a parent, I would say have a talk with him. let him know that if he keeps disrespecting you, you will take one favorite toy away from him so long as he continues that negative behavior. if you are his teacher, I would say do something similar. take away some of his favorite things to do until he starts to behave himself. good luck

Answer 10

Shock collars worked with our kids. Of course now all we do is pick up the TV remote and they pee their pants. Guess there's a downside to everything.

Answer 11

chores choirs chores and schedule each task at a certain time each day. and yes he's old enough to make his own bed, pick up toys and clean his own room.