I've been dating a guy from my college since september of 2005. He lived next door so we saw each other daily, but only went out to bars together once a week or less. We've been having sex with each other since september, and in november of last year we discussed being boyfriend/girlfriend and he wanted nothing to do with it. I visited him this summer in manhattan and he took me out, paid for everything, we had an abosultely amazing time, and we texted each other for a week or so after but i haven't seen him since. I'm going back to school in a few weeks, and we're going to be seeing each other again, but i don't want to waist my time with him if he's only interested in sex. Before he came to college he had a girl from home. They said i love you to each other, but he still never wanted to be her boyfriend. They dated for a year and never had sex. Is he just strung up on the words of relationships or is he only looking for something sexual?
2006-08-24 13:40:35 · 19 answers · asked by cali0405 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you need to take a step back. Be friendly, but don't fall right into the old habits. Instead, act like you would with other guy friends and see what he does. If he pursues you, then there is something more to it; if not, he only wanted to be friends with benefits.
2006-08-24 13:46:08 · answer #1 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it. I feel like people should not get very serious until you get older. Your attitudes tend to change in the late 20's and early 30's. Of course not everyone is like that, but from what I've observed many are and sometimes its hard for relationships formed early to survive when one or both partners change. For now just enjoy life and take it as it comes.
2006-08-24 13:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by Tim C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sounds of things he's not ready to commit right now he just wants some ***,and you answered your own question you said you talked about a relationship but it didn't happen.
2006-08-24 13:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he never had sex with the girl bacxk home but with you does it mean you encouraged him into this sex route earlier on and since you worried about sex so much are you the one who seems to be looking at sex so much?
2006-08-24 13:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by Totoru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a player. He still has that girlfriend back home and he gets some from her every chance he gets. Don't believe the hype.
2006-08-24 13:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is him: Why buy the cow when he can get the milk for free? In other words: Yes, he's using you for sex.
Move on. Find someone who won't use you.
2006-08-24 13:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by Private Account 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a mutual thing you sound like you don't mind and he takes what he wants when he wants it your there for him . hope you were not looking for mr. right like this , next time wait and see what its all about then you will know if your next is for real or just want to play barbie
2006-08-24 13:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by yvette b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants friends with benefits... if you dont? put your foot down..dont live your life waiting on some undecided moron, you may miss a good guy.....hang your head high! and do what YOU want..if that doesnt fit into his agenda.. MOVE ON! 35 year old male here!
2006-08-24 13:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by NIPS® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes the idea of getting what he wants, do not talk to him, make him want you by ignoring him, if he really cares anything about you and not your body, he will do something to redeem himself.
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Cut him off!!!
2006-08-24 13:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by jimsdaughter3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he only wants sex out of you and it makes it clear bcuz his girlfriend is not giving him none so he gets it out you.his girl he probably realy loves and your just a boody call.
2006-08-24 13:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋