help!!!!!!
2006-08-24 13:33:18 · 26 answers · asked by VKF Jr. 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Tell him when he says . Whats the matter babe
2006-08-24 13:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please do not tell him straight away. Just concentrate on enjoying yourself. As you get to know each other you will share facts about yourself. You may at first say stuff, for example, about how many brothers and sisters you have and where you were born. Then after a few weeks (or even months) you may discuss deeper stuff, and play it by ear. Tell him when and if it feels right to tell him. If he has accepted the other stuff OK and he is understanding then you can tell him.
Sometimes a new romance is a bit difficult if you suffer from depression because it means a change in your feelings and that is so much more complicated if you suffer from depression. It may even make you depression worse temporarily until you are used to the change. So, take every day at a time, take things at your own pace, and good luck.
2006-08-25 15:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by tinkerbell34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him when you feel comfortable about it. It's not something you have to talk about right away. Besides, maybe your depression will go into remission and you can let him know that it's something you struggle with, but then you can also let him know how you are helping yourself and make it something more positive. The closer you get, the more in depth you can get about it, but most people truly have no clue unless they've gone through it, so you can't expect him to just understand. I know because I suffered from depression before and have been in remission of a couple of years now, my family is really clueless after years of trying to explain it, so I don't think someone you just met should even be put in that position right away. Just enjoy yourself.
2006-08-24 20:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on how serious you want to be with this boy. You don't have to tell everyone that you are suffering from depression but if it is someone you want to develop a serious romantic relationship with, then I think it is necessary that you be honest with him about your mental condition. If he likes you as much as you do him, chances are he'll accept your condition. If you don't tell him, he'll sense something sooner or later. People who have no idea what depression is like will have difficulty understanding why you behave in a certain way.
2006-08-24 20:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have depression of some sorts. If he likes you he will need to understand who you really are and whatever you do, do not lie about it. Wait and you will find the proper time to talk about this subject. It is not anything you have to do quickly, just something that you will know when the right time to discuss is.
He may end up being someone you really do not like when you get to know him and go around spreading viscous stories about you, so be careful, get to know him and you will be able to tell when the time is right.
And good luck.
2006-08-24 20:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by MrPurrfect 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey there-I have depression, too. When I started dating my now husband, I was up front with him about all of my negative issues. I had just gone through a horrible divorce and tried to committ suicide. When I met my hubby, I still had a bandage on my wrist. I told him right up front, not sure on the reaction, and got a good one. "We all make mistakes and go through rough times" he said. I hope this helps you. Just be yourself.....and HONEST. If he does not approve of your current situation, then he needs to go!! You never know, he might be going through the same thing and does not want to tell you.....you never know until you open up.
2006-08-24 20:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by Tazzette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Small depression is common.You may not be having friends.The new boy may give the required emotional support and I believe the depression will be solved by good friendhip or love.Good Luck
2006-08-28 07:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by leowin1948 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depression is nothing to be ashamed of....there are a lot of use out there who deal with it daily. you don't have to tell him right away. you tell him when you think you need to. if he has never dealt with depression, then it may be hard for him to understand at first,but if he is truly a caring person who cares about you then he will do his part to help see you through it... i hope you find the Peace and happiness that you are looking for.it will happen
2006-08-25 20:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by tabby261 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really all depends on how long you have know this person for i suffereed depression and had only been with my boyfriend for about 8 months and was on medication for a good year and a half and 3 years later we are still together so it really all depends he doesnt reaally have to know but depending on your depression he will pick up on it sooner or later
2006-08-24 20:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by i love my country boy 4eva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him at first. Just be friends and hang out. You will know when your ready to tell him, because he will ask you about it. You can tell when other epopel are depressed and unhappy, and when you guys are close enough he will ask you whats up, and that when you should tell him. I dont know if your a cutter or not, but if you are and he sees your cuts and says nothing, then dont bother with him.
2006-08-24 20:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by cccbonick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you should tell him at some point, but don't leave it too late. Hey if you have met someone then your depression must but lifting, at least slightly anyway. Look forward to the future!!!
2006-08-26 10:27:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋