My nephew killed himself last month. I dont know what to do i feel so alone me and him were close. Now i feel like i have lost everything.I dont know what to do. can someone help me please?
2006-08-24 13:14:49 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First Im so sorry. With a tragic loss it sometimes takes counseling to help you thru the greiving process. You have to give yourself time to grieve and then stay busy. Please see a counselor.
2006-08-24 13:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss, but if you were so close to him, how could you not see any signs of depression? As someone who lost several friends to suicide, and even tried it myself, I can tell you someone does not just decide out of the blue one day to kill themselves...they are usually very depressed, very withdrawn, and very secretive...People who commit suicide usually take a good amount of time planning it out...If this is not something you have ever been through before, then it is understandable that you might not notice...The best advice I can give you is don't ask "why?" you will never get an answer, you'll probably make yourself crazy, and don't beat yourself up for not seeing any signs that would warn you of his plans...just try to hang on to the good times, and remember that if he felt that alone and that miserable, then he is probably in a better place now...he may have been one of those "tortured souls" and he cannot feel any of that pain anymore...It will be a hard journey for you, It will always hurt, but as time goes on, it will hurt a little less...
2006-08-31 21:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I am very close to my nephew too. This is a very hard thing to deal with. I really don't know much that will make you feel better. I have lost people too and I do know time does help. The hurt isn't always so fresh.
Are you close with the rest of your family? Talking about the loved one with other people who loved him too really helps. If not, try to go to one of the "grief groups;" there are all sorts of people there. Older people who have lost spouses they have been with 50 years all the way to teenagers who have lost friends. It is very helpful.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-01 12:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you feel is normal, you lost a close relationship. But you did not lose everything, you still have the memories of times you two were together, in that he will live forever and be with you always.
God will never allow anything to come your way when you cannot handle it. Although the other person who answered was rude, he/she has a valid point. Talking to a counselor would doa world a good.
Sorry for your loss.
2006-08-24 13:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip is what you need to do. There are grief support groups to help with the losses of loved ones that have committed suicide.
You really need to focus on your life and positive aspects in your life. Dwelling on the could've , would've should've will only lead you down the path of DEPRESSION sinking in a big hole.
Embrace the positives aspects in your life and learn from the mistakes your nephew made. Committing suicide is a cowardly act that when it is successful the person committing the act never stops to realize how many peoples lives they touch and hurt by doing this!
Your nephew is gone...you can't bring him back. you just need to be supportive to the family members that are probably experiencing the same thing as you. Think of your nephews MOM and how she must feel...Think of grandma, grandpa and his siblings!!! Your nephews death is NOT about you so you need to open your eyes and quit making his death a tangible something to hold on to. If you don't....you'll keep being in the HOLE of depression.....
2006-08-30 23:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Very sorry to hear about your nephew my sympathies to you. You need to find some counselling, there are bereavement groups out there to help you. Call a hospital, or a church and ask for help.
People that commit suicide think they are helping others by going away, the last thing your nephew would have wanted is to make you feel so desperate. Go find help for his sake!
2006-08-30 20:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by D_Lvr 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your loss, I've been there myself. Heres a few things that worked for me. You could find a grief support group or even start one yourself. Some counselors are willing to give some of their time to "head" something like this. I don't know what your beliefs are, but go to a church, talk to the preacher. Not only would s/he be willing to help you, but could also help to find a group. Counseling is a good starting point tho.
2006-09-01 05:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by spunkyshell2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!I am so sorry for your loss. I'm going throuth the grieving process myself.My ex did the same thing I can't understand it myself. I'm angry and mostly dissapointed that he resorted too such a drastic measure. My heart goes out to you I pray that you get through this ordeal. Whatever you do don't go throuth this alone. Try and spend time with those who love you including your friends. It's going to take time for you to heal. Trust me I'm telling you this because no matter how hard this is you have to go on living besides he would want you to. One day at a time is all you can do. Hang in there God Bless you, take care ok. You can email me if you want to talk.
2006-08-30 12:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the past 2 years ive had at least 4 close friends of mine die from drugs...its hard.but..keep ur head up..and dont listen to that first compent..i doubt u need therapy..well anyways...if u have a close friend or something or maybe even a close family member talk to them about it..the more talking u do..the better u will feel..
2006-08-24 13:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about your nephew. I know this has to be a hard time for you and your family. Please seek help. There are grief support groups you can attend, probably even some at yahoo groups that would be helpful. Keep yourself busy now with work or helping other people too, that will help you keep your life going as you work through this tragedy.
2006-08-24 13:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well there are groups to join that deal with these matters. You have not lost everything but you have lost someone you loved.
The thing I have learned about suicide is that as well as you think you know someone, you didn't really know them at all. They don'g often let you in their secret tormented world. It leaves the survivors feeling just as you do. It is a shock. Be with others who have lived through this trauma of life. You wil find solace.
God Bless...
2006-08-31 16:51:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋