I'm engaged to the man of my dreams. (actually better than my dreams). We've been engaged for 1 month now and we haven't set a date. How long after getting engaged should we decide on a date?
2006-08-24 12:50:39 · 22 answers · asked by Darrens_sugar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
here's the essential thing you need to know about men and weddings: they don't know ANYTHING. If you calmly and succinctly explain that the date is essential so that you can make all the arrangements, the lightbulb might go on, and you're off to the races (it worked for my best friend in the same situation)
2006-08-26 12:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by p s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's going to be slightly different for each couple. For one thing, the date can't be finalized until you have the ceremony and reception sites booked in stone. In your case, I guess it would depend on what it is that is keeping you two from setting a date. Logistics? The desire to enjoy the engagement? Can't agree on a reception site?
A co-worker of mine got engaged recently and I asked her if they had any idea about a date. She said that for them, engagement was the next step in their relationship, not a race to the finish line. They are for sure going to get married - no question there - but since they are both established adults with homes and jobs about 80 miles apart, they are not going to rush. Once they figure out all that mundane stuff, they plan on setting a date.
2006-08-25 02:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only really need a date set if you plan to have a wedding with people at it, so you can have the invites, ceremonies schedules, rentals, food planning, trips, budget, etc. My hubby and I got engaged for 11 months before we set a date to be married 3 months after that. We got married secretly in our church with our 2 best friends as witnesses and the minister. We had a picnic reception 5 months later with all our friends and family and cake and all. Knowing we had relatives who wanted to control our wedding, we did it without telling anyone till right after the services. We are still happy, everyone thought it a great idea and we are all living happily ever after!!! :)
2006-08-24 20:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by onecharliecat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The engagement period can be taken as a training period. It provides time for getting to know better each others tastes and ideals. It should help make you ready for the important adjustments to come after marriage. So the engagement period should be long enough to provide adequate time to prepare for marriage properly. So though no fixed period can be laid down our advice is that the engagement should last at least several months even years.
The success or failure of your marriage relationship may hinge on how well you deal with issues such as finances, sexuality, communication, conflict, parenting, in-laws, leisure time, family of origin, spirituality, expectations, and chores.
2006-08-24 22:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear I am in the same boat that you are in, however, some things you must consider is what season,type, and kind of wedding that you want to have. It is something that you have to discuss with your mate as well. For some people the engagement can be long process to plan for everything, while for others, a long time frame isn't necessarily what they want or need. Overall, take what time you need to fit what the both of you want. Good Luck!
2006-08-24 21:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by sgame00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no rush. Enjoy the happiness of being engaged without the stress of wedding planning!
Keep in mind you need a year to plan a wedding, give or take. Perhaps you should narrow down a year, or a season, or even a month.
2006-08-24 23:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immediately after. Getting engaged means a ring and a date.
2006-08-25 10:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you have your ring and he proposed! I have a date and no ring or formal engagement and I haven't planned until I get it.
Have your parents met yet? It usually gets discussed around then when you can set a date good for everyone. Maybe you could have the families over to discuss it or talk with them and set a date in at least 2 month's.
Don't worry, be happy! Congrats!
2006-08-24 20:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by LNZ 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were engaged for three years before we set a date. I wanted to wait until after I graduated college. When people asked us, we just said after I graduate.
2006-08-24 21:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R U for real....lol This is the best question in history for Yahoo. Let me start by saying I thought you had the date already with an engagement...lol
Let me guess, how long should you wait to have sex after marriage will be next!
2006-08-24 20:16:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋