when is the right time to ask for her hand in marriage? how do you know if she is ready?

Question

i met my girlfriend a month ago, everything is going perfect and i feel as though she is the one i've dreamt of. i love her alot and we are moving fast. before we met, she had gotten out of a relationship in which she was engaged. due to some problems, they are no longer engaged, nor speak. she has a beautiful baby, a month and a half old. i love them both to death. we have talked about marriage and when we would like to be married and she seemed to get a bit scared. how do i know when she is ready to be engaged again? how long should a relationship go before making that decision? please help!

Answer 1

I'd wait a little longer than a month personally, but everyone's different. I'd especially wait since she just got out of a bad relationship. Also, if she's acting scared when you talk about it, she's not ready. Just talking about it casually is probably the most mature and smart way to go about it. There's no snap-decision expected of the woman like if you got down on one knee unexpectedly (although you can do that later when you know she is ready). I think you're going about it well, but you may want to slow down as you are still probably on a new-relationship high!

Answer 2

I knew some people who got engaged after a month and it worked for them but that is certainly not the norm. It is awesome that you love this girl so much and if you think you want to marry her then stick around for awhile and get to know her even better. If talking about marriage is scaring her then step it back a little. It seems like she has been hurt before so go slow, prove to her you have no intentions of hurting her. Then after you've been around awhile, I say give it about a year. If she seems like she is as into you as you are into her then propose and let her know there is no rush to marry you just want to show that you have the intention of marrying her.

Answer 3

I met my wife in June of 1964 & married her on December 4,1964 That worked for me. My best friend dated his wife 31/2 years before marriage. That worked for him. You both will know when it is the right time for you to marry. DO NOT rush it because of your feelings for the child. I wish you both all the joy & happiness I and my wife (42 years) have

Answer 4

1month is not enough time to really get to know someone. You should be with her for at least a year before you decide she is the one for you and vice versa. Right now you are in the infatuation stage and it won't last. The real test will be if you still love her 1 year from now.

Answer 5

You just know. But in your case, why dont you give it a little more time. It seems like this girl is still on the rebound. I mean she has just gotten out of a relationship with someone who fathered her child. So you see, they are bound to each other even if she tries to avoid him. Please give this some more thought. I know right now everything seems wonderful to you but if you really love her. give her time to really know what she really wants.

Answer 6

You are about to fall off a cliff. You don't know this person. You won't know her for at least a year. For both of you, just slow down. You will know when the time is right, but give the novelty time to cool down first.

Answer 7

one month!!!!!!!! You sure are a fast worker.

I was proposed fast too but I was worried. On hindsight, I think I did the right most, because we got to know one another better and the marriage is .......... ;) Why the rush especially when she just got out from one.

Answer 8

1 month? You barely know each other. You'll never really know a person 100%, I think, but 1 month??!! Hold down your emotions long enough to view this situation rationally.

Answer 9

if u really love her show her frist and than ask the big questions but just remember it her and the baby they come as one.