So the deal is..theres 2 guys in my life. And im in the middle. My ex bf..i love him i do, but we've been having the worst troubles ever! We fight, hes turning into a jerk, & im moving in a 2 weeks. Its like we're driffting apart, but when we're 2gether we're so mushy & great. We make promises 2 each other & compromise about things, we love working things out kus it means so much 2 us.But it seems we can only do it in person not on the phone. & this other guy mark lives where im going 2 being moving. He is a GREAT guy & hed do anything for me. He wants to be w/me & is scared 2 lose me. I like him alot 2, he seems like we wouldnt fight & wed be great 2geather kus hes a very nice guy. I dont want to let him down! but i cant seem to let go of my ex bf. I love him w/all of my heart & i cant see my life w/o him but he hurts me so much. Should i work things out w/my ex? or should i just move on & force myself 2 get over him? (im not in favor of that). Why cant i have both? what would u do?
2006-08-24 12:23:22 · 17 answers · asked by xbinary_dreamsx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Call it quits before the move. Hew is probably acting out against the move anyways, but is to chicken to break it off with you.
2006-08-24 12:26:38 · answer #1 · answered by james_ud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex is turning into a jerk the whole relationship is doomed so l would just start over with the new guy. He is willing to do anything for you so go for it. The best way to see if you and your ex were meant to be is giving each other space and time. If you come back to one another then it was meant to be but if not then you will be glad of your decision.
2006-08-24 19:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by wannaseeprettypnk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I would get a life and grow up a bit. Sounds like you are not really getting on with either of these guys in a healthy way. My advice would be to not see either of them for 3 months and then see how you feel. But I bet you are not brave enough - so bang goes my 10 points!
2006-08-24 19:31:32 · answer #3 · answered by Bohemian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cool off with both of them for the next few weeks; at least till after you move. Then see how you feel.
2006-08-24 19:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by tas-okay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to be alone for a few weeks. The one who waits. That's the right one. Make sure the guy you chose shows you the respect you deserve (and make sure you preserve your self respect). That's my opinion.
2006-08-24 19:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by JKM1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer, and if you read between the lines of your note, you will know what to do. The winner is boy friend #2. Way your odds.
2006-08-24 19:29:46 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move a few weeks early and stay with mark where ever you are going. cut off all contact with your ex. you have to move on.
2006-08-24 19:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Watermelon Punch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with the one whom I knew I could trust and who adores me. Also, you and your ex b/f know you're leaving, and that just intensifies everything--you get caught up in those feelings and forget what matters.
2006-08-24 19:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by mom2be 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop, step back and give yourself time to sort yourself out before committing to any of the two.
2006-08-24 19:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by johnavaro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a reason why this guy is your ex. your moving away from him too, so i think you should take it up with mark.
2006-08-24 19:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by vincent_morfin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋