How can a girl be more social in college if they are shy and quiet?

Question

I am shy and quiet but I don't know how to approach people without making them think of me in a bad way. what should I do?

Answer 1

be more confident in yourself. tell yourself your a good person and a good friend. the more confidence you have in yourself, the more people will notice. u gotta break outta that shell and grow!

Answer 2

"Shy" and "Quiet" usually are alternative words used to describe introverted people. Understand, it's nothing to do with self-confidence, except that others have to have a way to explain you.

An excellent book "The Introverted Advantage" would help you understand.

You could use alcohol or drugs to "loosen up," and meet other's expectations. (kidding) Which is why a lot of people do.

Remember FORM

everyone has Family
everyone has Occupation
everyone has Recreation
everyone has Messages

Ask about them.

Never be ashamed to start out, "This is a little embarassing, but ......" It disarms most people.

Don't be caught by an outgoing, charasmatic user of a guy, they prey on "shy and quiet." women.

Answer 3

I was the shy girl in college. But i hung out with socialites. Because they got to know me with my reserve demeanor I was still asked to parties and so on. You can be shy until you break out of your shell. It will happen as now I have very popular friends and I am not as shy. I also invited people over for dinner. I love dinner parties which I can't cook so I turned it into a pot luck. One person bring something. You can do this on campus in a dorm room or inside college housing. It will work for you.

Answer 4

Just join a club that interests you, or try some intramural sports- guarentee that you will meet a bunch of fun people. I am quiet and shy as well, and that is how I made it through my first year of college last year- now I'm psyched about college starting again.
Good luck!

Answer 5

it's all about attitude. if u are shy,and uncomfortable, most likely people will FEEL shy or uncomfortable around you. what u need to do is just focus on yourself first, before u can worry about others!!

do u feel good about urself? why or why not? work on your appearance; when u Feel like u look good, u Act like it. work out, get into shape....work on your makeup and hair, and styles of clothing, find things that are flattering for you. :) it's fun!

do u feel dumb? are u shy cuz ur scared people will make fun of what u say? study more... learn more...read more.. the more u just "know", and practice thinking and analyzing, u will be able to discuss w/ other people. it's really weird when u just happen to know what's going on and u can think of something to say, instead of never having heard of it and trying to come up w/ something.

do u have some good, close friends and family? first, start working on ur relationships w/ them. use them as a tool, a positive one, to help you grow your personality and confidence. interact w/ them more, talk more, discuss more, shop more, etc etc. ask them to do things with you. as u start Looking Better, Feeling Smarter, and Doing more active things, u will feel more and more comfortable meeting strangers...friends of friends, other students, maybe even blind dates!! :) but it's ALL a process, and it starts with YOU.

trust me i totally know. i was shy all thru high school, college and a little after. i had to Force myself to look better, and feel better, and then i realized, hey i am pretty cool! :) i am a very nice person, i like to help people, i like to talk, learn and discuss. i realized that there's nothing about me people shouldn't like, and if they Don't, well it's ok. i still have friends and family and boyfriend that love me. and I love me. if i wasn't happy w/ myself (ie, i didn't like that i was shy, fat, felt ugly, stupid, etc), then how could anyone else see how great i was? i had to give them a chance, by first giving myself a chance.

don't worry, what others think is secondary..what YOU think is most important. it will help you filter out who is Positive and who is Negative; who is pretending to be a friend, and who truly has good character. good luck, and don't give up~ always seek what is Good, Positive, Healthy, Happy and i know you will be fine and become a better person each day. take care always~

Answer 6

Get in some clubs or groups. Ask yourself why you're so shy, then tackle the answer to that question on a psychological level to make yourself more comfortable with others.

Answer 7

Be yourself. Any attempt to appear sociable when you are shy will fire back on you. Just relax, continue to be quiet and unnoticed - just keep a smile on your face to send a message to others that even though you are quiet, you are no arrogant, and you welcome their friendship. They will approach you. They will try to get you into their circles. Even then, don't overdo openness; continue to be yourself. Soon you will grasp the secret of being open and sociable in a natural way.

Answer 8

Become involved in some activity that interests you - that way, it's a smaller group and you all have one interest in common. If it's a book club, a science club, a craft club - you start talking about what you have in common, and the other stuff just begins to filter in.
Good luck!

Answer 9

Well just try and get out more, get to know people. No reason to be shy... most people are good people. I'm trying to keep it short that last answer must have been a page long...sheesh

Answer 10

Join a club or 2 regarding things you are interested in. You will meet lots of people who have the same interests that you have.

Answer 11

One thing.....Smile! I smile says a thousand words, if you smile, you make people think you are more approachable. If they think you are approachable, they will come up and talk to you and you won't have to deal with the rejection anxeity! You will do fine! Good luck!