im 19 yrs old, married, and pregnant,im happy! is this wrong?

Question

I KNOW ITS NOT WRONG BUT I HEAR PEOPLE SAY U SHOULD HAVE KEPT UR LEGS CLOSED OR HOW UNEDUCATED OR THEY SAY IT WAS MY UP BRINGING HOW DO U I LET PEOPLE KNOW THAT IM FINE WITH MY SITUATION AND THIS CHILD WILL NOT END MY LIFE BUT BRING MORE JOY AND HAPPINESS TO ME AND MY HUSBAND

Answer 1

Why are you listening to them if you know it's right? You've already made a commitment and you are already pregnant. It's done. Stop worrying about what others think and enjoy your life.

Answer 2

I had my first child when I was 18. I also got comments from people who seem to think it was ok to stick their nose in my business. I was perfectly happy with my decision to marry young and start a family right away. I went on to have three more children by the time I was 23 and boy did I get a lot of comments about that too! :) But what these people don't or won't understand is that although it wouldn't be their choice it was my right for it to be mine and for them to respect that.
I always wanted to have my children early because I wanted to be young while I was raising them. My parents were 32 and 42 when I was born and I wanted to be younger than that. Although I am no longer married to their father and have since remarried (8 years ago) I am still glad that I made the decision that I made.
Don't let anyone determine what your happiness is. If they feel compelled to make a comment about it just smile and move on. It's not worth getting upset over. I hope this helps you a little abd congratulations on your new baby!

Answer 3

I'm 20 years old, have 2 children and I'm unmarried; Is this wrong? Of course not. It's no ones business what you do. I was of legal age when I had both my daughters. Their father and I both love them and we are very happy (we're getting married eventually). You can always flip people the bird. Seriously, when I was pregnant with my first child, my aunt made a comment to my mom that her daughter would NEVER do that. I got pregnant with my child 4 months before I turned 18 by the way. My aunt's pure, innocent daughter just turned 15 in April and she is 4 months pregnant. Do you see what happens when people judge? They get a case of bad karma. "What goes around comes around."

Answer 4

I had my daughter when I was 19 and I don't regret it at all. I am now almost 30 and my daughter is 10 and I don't have to worry about changing diapers when I can be cuddled up next to my favorite book and a glass of cabernet. I think if you are really wanting this baby and intend to raise a person who could do something for the world, then who gives a damn what people think!! I used to be embarrassed to tell people my age, or when in public, people used to call my daughter my little sister....that was bad. It still happens!! But now, I don't care!! She is a good student, athlete, and person.....and I helped her to become that way!! So please, have fun and be glad that when she graduates from college, you won't even be 50!!!

Answer 5

You may be right depending on how rich you guys are. Make sure you have a plan. The age back in the day to get married was 15...its later now because of society and culture. There is no reason why you can't do that as long as you are taking care of your finances and life. Make sure you have a vision goal wise and/or good education because things can change.

Answer 6

Unfortunately sweetie, everyone your age that has been in your situation felt the same way until their maturity levels changed, which your will as well. Then they realize that the idealistic views of life and mother hood and marriage were not what they expected. For some, it makes them stronger, for some it tears them apart resulting in more kids growing up without dads or moms directly in their lives... Hun, I am not trying to speak negatives in yoru life and I DO wish you the best, but your situation IS going to get harder as the years pass.. Its hard enough as a grown adult to be a parent and be married in this day and age without adding to it. Honey, if you were REALLY happy, would you be asking this question? Think about it.

Answer 7

I'm happy you are married! Thats a big thing!
I know a lot of people will tell you you are too young, and crap like that!
Don't listen to them, if you are happy then so be it!
But i was pregnant a while ago, It turned out to be a molar pregnancy and it came with sadness and relief!
I realised that i wouldn't have been able to ever do things with my husband that we planned on doing, and probably never getting back to school! It helped us a lot, we learned to much!
I have now enrolled in classes, and finally figured out what i want to do in regards to a career! It was very sad and exciting at the same time!
Good Luck!

Answer 8

I will admit that I am one of those people that do not think that children - anyone under the age of 18 - should being having sex or children of their. However, that does not mean crap! My opinions are my opinions and not yours. Having sex or children rather you are 18- or 18+ does not change who you are as a person. If you are happy with your "situation" that is what matter, not rather or not someone else is happy with your "situation." Just tell people like me to sit down, shut up, and let you live your own life. Of course not in those exact words.

Answer 9

Screw them all. What is right for one person is not right for all. Soceity is ignorant, full of people giving oout advice about subjects and topics they know nothing about. You may be young, but what works for you can only be judged as so by you.

Forget the rest, more than two thirds of marriages end up in divorice, but my parents married very early, 15 and 17, and had me a year later. And I HAVE a better home life/family relationship than anyone I know.

Damn I hate people...

Anyways good luck to you LOL

Answer 10

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being 19, married and pregnant. I was. And now, I have 2 wonderful people in my life: my husband and my 5-month old baby girl.

Answer 11

your choices are merely made fun of because they were so immature.. just 4 years ago you couldnt even drive a car.. and now you have a kid.. basicly most people think you go to college or have a career before making the choice. and have a few years of adult life down before having a kid and getting married.. also younger couples have a much higher risk of divorce and bad child upbringing.. but im not putting you down im using the generals here.. anyways goodluck and nothing is ever wrong..