I've been in the most intense relationship of 8 months with this girl I can honestly say I see myself growing old with....we have had so many beautiful moments...but we have also fought ALOT....but the fighting is about stuff that now that I have lost her I realize is just so stupid...I have been such a hardass with her....always finding something to complain about...where she is more relaxed....it got to a point where we tried so many times to resolve this and I said I would get better but I just kept slipping up....till this last time...she just told me she loves me but she can't be in a relationship with me....there has been too many times I make her feel bad....she seems to forget about the good....I have been there for her through a lot of her problems and she has thanked me for being her support and her strength...but I can't let go of her....I know this could be so wonderful...I went as far as starting counselling today to deal with my issues..we broke up 2 days ago. What to do?
2006-08-24 11:54:50 · 17 answers · asked by samplefreq 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please send her a card and write what you have just typed for us.
You have me smiling at the honesty and vulnerability you've displayed. Glad you've shed the hardass personality.
Good luck!
2006-08-24 11:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her. Chances are that you two can resolve the issues within the relationship if you are both willing to work at it. But you say that you've been together for 8 months but alot of fights, how can you fight so much with the person you see yourself growing old with? I don't understand. If you make her feel bad she is not going to willing to be with you under any circumstances, relationships are suppose to be about making each other feel good. But if you really love her, give it a shot. Talk to her.
2006-08-24 12:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by Monie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 19:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by cromlish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.....Very Good.....stay with the counseling. It takes time to find results with the counseling so hang in. Back off the girlfriend thing. Leave her alone and pay attention to what you need to do to change. You need time and space! My son and his girlfriend were together all through college and broke up......went' their separate ways. Well, 2 1/2 years later, they got back into a few dates, renewing their relationship, got engaged and got married 3 years ago and are very happy. Sometimes you need to be apart to mature and figure yourself out!
2006-08-24 12:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to get your counseling; prove that you can be better for her. Keep in touch while you're getting your counseling, and once you feel that you can be good enough for her, then try getting back with her. Remind her of the good times with little keepsake memory things. Maybe a napkin from a restaurant. Or saying something you said to her then. She probably wants you back. So just prove to her that you're willing to fight and work for her. God bless!
2006-08-24 11:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue with your counseling and leave her alone. right now you are no good for her. When you change then you can let her see it. She may still not want to be with you but thats ok too. The next girl you get with you won't make the same mistakes.
2006-08-24 11:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to win her back but you made her so unhappy in the relationship. why should she ignore the bad for the good?
I think you need to continue counselling and leave her alone for now, it's only been 2 days after all. And think about why you would get angry and fight and maybe change that in yourself. in the meantime she made it clear and you need to respect her decision.
2006-08-24 11:58:31 · answer #7 · answered by Happÿ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep going to counseling.Its hard to forget the bad even if there are good times. give her a little space tell her you are getting help and you hope that both of you can get back together. but you need to work on your self before you get into a relationship.
2006-08-24 12:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by ap2knowu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the counseling a chance to help u with your issues before u try to get back with her. It's okay to let her know you're trying to get your head straight though.
2006-08-24 12:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by confused123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situtaion as she is. Your only hope is to stay in counseling and change your hardass ways...
2006-08-24 12:09:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋