well the guy that I'm living with does not let me go any where with out him . what should i do? confused?

Question

I gve up my friends like he said I should do, his always complaining 2 me cause I want 2 spend time with my family. his always compering me 2 every thin chick he sees. Lately i feel like I gave up my mind compermise my life. But I love him So I think because everytime I live him I end up going back 2 him. how do I pull away after I found out I'm having his baby 22 years old and confused!

Answer 1

Get in contact with your family and see if you can move in with them. He is slowly getting you into a cycle of abuse and you have already gone through the first stage which is isolating you from your friends and family. Then he is also trying to destroy your self-esteem and then it will get to the point where you'll have no one in your life but him and him alone. This situation will get worse if you don't leave now. It will not be safe for you or your baby if you stay with someone like that.

Answer 2

This is the beginning of an abusive relationship. Statistically, you are at a high risk for physical abuse. Men who isolate and emotionally berate their mates, more often than not, graduate to physical abuse. Get out now. Even if he never hits you, he will only become more controlling, complaining and emotionally abusive as time goes by. This isn't good for you and can be devastating on your child. A healthy relationship should include you having your own friends and anyone who tries to isolate you from the best support system you will ever have is NOT a good mate. He doesn't LET you go anywhere with him? What's that about? You are 22 years old! You should be having the time of your life making friends and socializing. It will be very hard, but just go. Pack your bags and go home to your family. They love you, this guy doesn't.

Answer 3

Okay, first of all you should've left him when he asked you to give up your friends and worse, not to spend time with your family. It's absurd! I know there are a lot of people who will agree with me when i say that he doesn't love you. With how you explained the situation, all I see from this guy is that he's possessive, selfish otherwise if he do loves you he wouldn't do anything that will hurt you (physically or EMOTIONALLY) or even your family. If he loves you, he should care about you. I understand that you said you love him and that after trying to leave him, you end up going back to him. Maybe, it's because you're afraid that you'll have a hard time without having a father for your baby or maybe it's something else. You should think about it very seriously - I mean the part about why you can't leave him. One more thing, does he know that you're having a baby and that he's the father? Because you need to tell him sooner or later and if he doesn't respond to the news humanely, then you should go back to your family and ask for their help. Because believe it or not, our families are the only ones who can help us at the end of the day-no matter what you did. Girl, let me tell you something, a woman doesn't need a man to complete her. We need men for them to love us, provide for us (YES, reality check - that's why you also need to ask him to provide for your child even if you two aren't together anymore) and comfort us not to tell us what they want us to be like or act like. Remember, we are the captains of our lives and we do not need men to give us commands to know who we are or who we should become. Stand your ground and be brave for your child. That child of yours should be your main focus now. You already had your time being single before. If you are thinking about having another relationship, straighten out your life with your child first. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that you're irrseponsible or something, it's just that you wanted help/ answer to your question, i gave mine and hope and pray to God for it to be really helpful. Good luck! Always pray!

Answer 4

He sounds emotionally abusive. Leave him do you want your child growing up in a house like that? You are not his child and should not need his permission for anything. He is controlling and if he is comparing you to other women he is more than likely cheating on you. Get some counseling and learn how to go it on your own.

Answer 5

well tell him you want to go out with your friends. He can't control you all the time. If he tries something when you try to leave you should just call the local police and have them help you leave the property. Also make sure you get a restraining order against him.

Answer 6

You know what hunny. He has seperation anxioity. He is obviously very attached to you. But he needs to let you have some breathing room. You need to have a sit down talk with him. It is important for you to have time to be social with other people without him. I think staying with him would be good since you are having his child. But you need to lay down some rules does he know you are having his child. Don't let him make you into a hermit. He needs to let you have some girl time with some friends. And time with family.

Answer 7

Get away from him as fast as you can! He is an ABUSER!!!
Do you want your unborn child to grow up just like him?
There are women's organizations out there that can help you break the pattern. They can help you with orders of protection so that he can not come after you.

Answer 8

Sounds like you need to get marriage counseling. He seems to be very insecure and quite controlling.

When you have your child it will become worse if you do not iron out this problem in therapy soon.

Answer 9

move out and get over him, dont let your life be dragged into a pit, when you stay away from him for 6 good months, you will wonder what you ever saw in him to start with

Answer 10

Move or stay and be abused for the rest of your life...your choice, oh wait maybe should ask permission before thinking about this...Geez....