please help me?

Question

i have a friend, who at the begining of the schoo, year (im in 7th grade) i liked a little. then as the year went on, i became more and more atracted to her. i statred writing love poems about her, but i never showed her. one day i found one of my very close friends liked her too, and that they have seen movies together. she did not know that either of us liked her. i statred sharing the poems with my friend, and it seemed he understood, but then he told her about the poems. i felt so angry. on an end of the year trip (one week before school ended) we were going to tell her, but we could suck it up. finally,on the last day of school, we told her, and she reacted shocked. my friendship with my lieing friend has come back, and i am seeing lots of movies with her. the thing is, i love her, and my other friend just has a crush on her. i have no clue what to do, because all i keep doing is seeing movies with her. how do i make it more serious? please help me, becuase i am worried

the thing is, our school seems to be more mature than others.
the 6th graders have relationships
the 7th graders have serious relationships
and the 8th graders are thinking about sex
(i dont think they should though)

ive been to a dance with her

my parents dont even know about her

i mean something more than seeing movies. something were we can talk and be nice and, being happy with each other.
not jsut watching pirates of the carribean

Answer 1

Isn't young love grand?

I know a lot of people think that life is all about boy-girl relationships at your age I'd say, just take your time. You do not need to rush into anything. You have already told her how you feel, and she told you what she thinks of it. Leave it at that - you still have a good friend.

In a little while ( a few years at most) you will both be leaving the school you are in. She may go to med school in California while you are going to community college in Iowa. When that comes, you will be doing good if you can keep the friendship connected - you don't need extra considerations like bf/gf relationships to fuss over. It might even kill any chance you have of staying connected through college.

The best advice I can give to someone your age is this: be friendly, but not too friendly. Right now, your grades and your family are far more important. When everything else is ready in your life - Mrs. Wonderful will come, and if you really are ready for her, she'll see you coming a mile away. And meet you half way.

Answer 2

so in the 8th grade, what do you mean by serious? are you talking about kissing,--first, second or third base? i know that people mature at an excelerated rate now, but really, what could you possibly mean be serious. you may think that you are in love, but when you really love someone, it goes way beyond the physical. it means that you want to take care of them when times are good and bad. even when that new beautiful girl comes to school. it means that you will love her when she's fat or ugly or looses a leg or two in an accident. what you are feeling are your hormones washing over your body, preparing you for adulthood. if you like her there's nothing wrong with telling her, taking her on dates or anything that is appropriate for your age. you have the rest of your life to be an adult and believe me it is not fun. you shouldn't have sex with anyone at your age because pregnancy if quite possible and you can not take care of a child. there is no birth control that is 100% safe. and when you do have sex, wrap it up. now if this young lady really likes you, the fact that your friend comes back will not change her manner towards you. also, there are many attractive and nice females in your future, so if she would rather date him, find someone else you like.

Answer 3

Tell her. Tell her that you want to take your friendship to the next level as to a relationship. I would wait, however on telling her that you love her, that seriously might scare her away, and you don't want that. I know it is hard to tell someone you like, even love, how you feel about them. If you have her number, call her every now and then...... Just don't seem too desperate or needy. Slowly start making it a point that you would like yours and hers friendship/relationship to go further. But remember, you are in the 7th or 8th grade. Take it slow, because if you really do love her, you don't want to loose her by seeming to desperate, needy, clingy, or to persistant and scare her off...That is the last thing you want. You may even suggest getting to know one another more by doing more stuff together...Win her heart over. And trust me, the last thing you want is for to think you are cocky or jerk, so when ever you are both around your friends, try not to show off to make YOU look good in front of YOUR buddies.

Answer 4

Ok. First of all your how old? You're in the 7th grade? Do you honestly know the meaning of love?
But you want to make it more serious. You need to talk to her and find out if that's what she wants. At that age more serious can't mean much. Your parents probably drive you to the movies as it is. All you can really do is spend more time with eachother outside of school and not at the movies. Go to eachothers houses, (to study or play board games) Don't try to rush her into anything if she's not ready.

Answer 5

How much more serious do you want to be in the 7th grade? Have you kissed her? Gone to a school dance? If you want to be more serious, you are going to have to be bold and make a physical move. Start with a kiss - a small, gentle one - not one of those over-anxious-spit-loaded sloppy ones and see what happens. Good luck!

Answer 6

Dude, you're in 7th grade. Take things slow. Going to the movies is great for now. I don't know if I took in all that you said, but your friend seems a little strange. Just beware of him and have fun.

Good things do come to those who wait.

Answer 7

Time is the only answer to this. If you really love her, you will be around while your friend will move on.

Answer 8

Talk seiously with both friends...good luck!

Answer 9

i am sorry i dont' know how to help you i am too old for this type of question but... oh thanks for taking me back to my high school years...

Answer 10

I don't wanna read your question.