i have this major crush on this guy?

Question

i go to school with this guy and he knows how i feel but he says we never hang out but i'm a amazing girl... i want to act like all the other girls that are able to just sit on any guys lap or hug them when they say hi but i feel weird doing that to this guy b/c he knows how i feel and i don't want time to get the wrong idea and him feel uncomfortable... also i dont have alot of guy friends so i have never done it to any guy but i don't want to feel weird around guys anymore... please help

Answer 1

You shouldn't have to feel "weird" around any guy. It sounds like you're shy around guys because you don't have a lot of experience with them. You shouldn't have to throw yourself out on a limb, though, just for him to think about you differently. Some girls feel comfortable with sitting with guys and hanging around them all the time, but if you don't, you shouldn't force yourself to feel uncomfortable.

If the guy feels like you haven't hung out enough, then maybe you should see if he wants to go to the movies or something, or to dinner, just to get to know each other. If I were you, I would let him make the first move, but if you don't think he will, ask him if he wants to go somewhere with you.

The only way for you to get comfortable with guys is to hang around them and learn with they're like.

~~GOOD LUCK!~~

Answer 2

Isn't young love grand? Really, though - you didn't say how old you are, so I have to guess that you are still young. I'm guessing about junior high.

I know a lot of people think that life is all about boy-girl relationships at your age (if you are the age I guessed). I'd say, just take your time. You do not need to rush into anything. You have already told him (or he figured out) how you feel, and he told you what he thinks of it. Leave it at that - you still have a good friend.

In a little while ( a few years at most) you will both be leaving the school you are in. He may go to med school in California while you are going to community college in Iowa. When that comes, you will be doing good if you can keep the friendship connected - you don't need extra considerations like bf/gf relationships to fuss over. It might even kill any chance you have of staying connected through college.

The best advice I can give to someone the age I'm guessing you are is this: be friendly with everyone, but not too friendly. Right now, your grades and your family are far more important. When everything else is ready in your life - Mr. Wonderful will come, and if you really are ready for him, he'll see you coming a mile away. And meet you half way.

Answer 3

b yourself. if u feel uncomfortable doin somethig then dont do, its that easy. u could suggest to hang out with this guy as a friend sometime and if he says yea, then u can go from there. but if u dont feel comfortable with that then there is another guy who has his eye on u, and u dont know it. there is always someone thinkin of someone. give it time and just mingle with the other guys in school. the right guy will come out to u, eventually, but b patient.

Answer 4

If I were you i would just start how by talking to him to get him to feel closer to me. If he felt like we were better friends then if I had to I would ask to hug him... but before I would ask I would casually drop into conversation that I'm the type of friend that likes to give and get hugs, and see how he feels about that. By "talking to him" I mean to find out about him... but at his level. Let him give info. as he gets comfy enough to give it. That way you can know when it is safe to ask. Good Luck!!! It really isn't as hard as it seems.

Answer 5

You don't need help. I know you have a crush on me. And I think you're hot. But, we have to take this slowly or else, the relationship will develop too quickly and you'll leave me for the next great guy.

Be patient and don't give up. I'm working on it. You'll be mine soon. I promise.

Answer 6

well the only way you will get comfortable around guys is to hang around them until you feel good around him and then act on the way you feel and hopefully you and your friend will live happily ever after

Answer 7

Everyone is unique in a differet way. Don't try to copy other girls because it's their style. It's just not you. Act natural. Be yourself. That way you know if he really likes you. If he doesn't like you it means that he's not goodenough for you.

Answer 8

if you like a guy, sitting in their lap wont get them, unless all they want is one thing. hang out with him more and ask him on a date. then if you think he enjoyed it, ask him on another. start doing things together and spending more time together, but give him space, dont crowd him. then if he likes you, maybe he will ask you out.

Answer 9

im a guy and my best answer would be just6 do it once and see how he reacts no guy can resists hugs frum hot chiks so if hes single just say hi and give him a hug hope this helps

Answer 10

flirt flirt and flirt then ask him out.Learn how to flirt step by step. Impress the guy you like, and play flirtacious games! Show the guy you like him, and you may be surprised when you find out that he likes you too.

Steps
Approach him and start a conversation, but don't make it too obvious that you like him. If he approaches you, look him in the eyes as a sign of affection and confidence.
Try to touch him whenever you can, on his arm or wherever else. Don't make it too obvious.
Play with your hair or clothing.
Talk sexy around him to get his attention, and lick your lips, but don't change your voice too much. This can be a turn-off. Instead, just sweeten your voice a little, make yourself sound happy.
Once you've got his attention, look him in the eyes and smile. If he smiles back, slowly look down, and repeat.
Don't make it too obvious when he's around his friends, unless you know that he likes you.
Laugh with him, and help him to feel comfortable around you.
Find a reason to whisper something in his ear.
Don't try to be someone you aren't. You attract the kind of person you are. Don't pretend to be a sportsy type when you're really a poet.
Talk about what you have in common, and ask questions about what you don't. People love to feel like they're interesting. (And heck, they probably are, too.)
Say his name a lot. This shows you're interested in who he is. Give him a nickname, so you two have a little inside joke to share. Most likely, he'll give you one, too!



Tips
Try not to make it obvious that you are flirting.
Don't try too hard to impress him.
Be yourself, and add some flirting to go with it.
Don't flirt with someone else's girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, or wife, it only leads to trouble.
Auto-erotic touching (touch your lips, neck, chest with your fingers or hands) - it is something people do subconsciously when they like you, but you can manipulate it.
Boss him around or call him names (in a nice way); anything to make him notice you. He won't take offense to the name calling if he likes you!
Whenever he's around, make sure you're having fun (laughing, etc) so that he'll want to join in.
Change your tone of voice when you're around him.
Take a break every now and then to leave him wanting more.
Massages are always nice.
Tell him you had a dream about him. If he finds this kinda creepy, then just say it wasnt 'about' you, but you were there!
Don't apply lipstick, chapstick, or lipgloss in front of him.
Tell him you'd like to see him again if leaving, or mention that you'd like to try one of his hobbies.
Listen carefully to what he says, and let him know you were listening through your conversation.
Ask to borrow things, or for help with something.
Hint about a movie you'd like to see.



Warnings
Be careful that he's not leading you on so he can make a fool out of you.
Make sure he doesn't have a girlfriend who will be a snob to you, if she finds out you've been flirting with him. She will have the right to be a snob to you, you're invading her relationship.
Certain boys can sometimes be very unfair! So be careful if you tell any of his friends!
Boys act differently around their mates.
If his friends don't like you but he does you shouldn't let him kept you a secret. this just shows that he isn't proud of his woman and you want someone who wants you for you and doesn't care about what others think. You don't have to rush to say that you're in love or not; so don't trap him with the 3 words if it's early.
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