I like this guy and he knows because this other guy that likes me told him. I don't know if he believed him or not. I really do like him and I want to ask him out, but I am not sure how to approach him. Also he went out with this girl once and they went out for two months and did nothing. His best friend also knows that I like him and said that he went out with this girl in third or fourth grade. Now he is in 8th grade. His best friend said that back then he had no commetmeant and he wasn't sure if he had any now. One of my best friends said that it was obvious that he likes me, but I am not sure. Also the only thing right now that he is commetted to is football and basketball. So should I ask him to the next social? ( thats like a informal school dance.)
2006-08-24 10:49:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is because to do something this bold, one must have self-confidence in oodles…and confidence is as they say, rare as diamonds.
Right, but say you've found a boy. He's lovely - kinda quiet, gets carried away when he talks about soccer and his dog, makes a mean curry, shows you his collection of books (and they're not all just a front for his porn)… in short, someone who has potential - how do you get up the guts to do it? It all goes back to confidence.
Confidence is simply the ability to be positive about yourself and the outcome of a situation. You need to make sure that whatever happens, whatever his answer is, you can tell yourself that you are able to handle it.
At the same time, you should know that nothing he says is a reflection of you as a person. In other words, don't take it personally. If you can't bear the thought of rejection, then perhaps you'd be better off not asking someone out… because there's always a risk of that when something involves another person.
So say you've talked yourself into that frame of mind, it's the right time, the mood is romantic, you're standing in front of him, he's smiling into your eyes and you're not sure but damn… the sunlight by the photocopy machine makes him look fine… just do it.
And don't beat around the bush either. Most people, men and women, aren't good at reading between the lines - they either get it wrong, or don't get it at all.
You need to make it plain in the simplest terms possible, spell it out if you will, that you're asking them out. "Frank, if you're not doing anything this weekend, do you want to go out with me?", or "Frank, how about catching a movie with me this Friday?" or "Frank, if you don't go out with me you're a fool and you're missing out on the greatest thing since sliced bread".
You get the picture. The thing is to make it clear to them that you want to hang out, just the two of you (this part is important - you don't want him to bring his sister or his mate Sarah along), and that this is a getting to know you process.
Be cool. Don't build it up too much in your head. It's nice to imagine scenarios and being that kind of girl myself, I know what it's like - but be sure to tell yourself firmly that this is only in your head. In reality, you haven't even gone on a date yet.
But say he says no, what then? At least you gave it a shot and hey - isn't it better to know in the long run? Your ego might get a bit bruised, but you'll survive and have experience to draw on for next time. This is the kind of stuff that gets easier with practise. Just remember - if you don’t make a big deal of it, he won't… and he'll most likely be flattered and go along with it out of curiosity.
The things worth having in life don't come easy. Sometimes, you really have to struggle for them. And the first step you can take towards a relationship starts with a simple "Hi, I think you're pretty cool. Will you go out with me?"
2006-08-24 11:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by lolla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just start hanging around with him. Ha, can't believe girls get shy about guys like we do about girls. Anyway, once you know him well enough, ask him if he wants to do something over the weekend. He will probably say yes because it would take pressure off him to ask you out. Confusing.
2006-08-24 10:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by meflyfaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask away darlin!! If you feel like he might not be commited (to you), just ask him to non-comitment school functions. Then after a couple you can see whether you still think he'll be the same way or not. Good Luck, don't stress too much over this, you'll drive yourself crazy (trust me, I've done this to myself several times, it's not worth it.) =)
2006-08-24 10:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by MakeBelieve. All you want. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use common sense. You can ask him straight out. Believe me, if a girl interests me, I will let her know right away.
2006-08-25 23:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by davidcool756 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him out. Guys really like that. Really!
2006-08-24 10:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by i_cycle_hard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having that same EXCACT problem right now. I'll stay here and just read what the other people are telling you and then we can bothknow! :)
2006-08-24 10:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by Leni ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Ask him to go to a movie with you.
2006-08-24 10:52:34 · answer #7 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it... find out for yourself and stop trying to get other peoples opions, if you like him, then ask him
2006-08-24 10:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by her half dead lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to the next social. but he if says no, dont be embarassed. just smile & say thanks anyway. if he says yes, you'll know he likes you
2006-08-24 10:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as u gonna ask him out
pretend u a guy and do wat they would do
(usually a wolf whistle and slap on the ***)
2006-08-24 10:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋