My Older Sister (19) and I (15) are always arguing like crazy and me being the younger brother am at a disadvantage i really don't know what to do. Me and my little cousin always get into little arguements but they aren't really serious and we're just playing and she just butts in and she acts like my mom and trying to assort her authority. It basically drives me insane. And we just get into stupid verbal fights all the time. I really want to get along with her and when things start to get better they just fall apart. I mean in order to help bring us together even more i declined my friends birthday invitation just to go with the rest of my family tommorrow to help her set stuff up at her house before college starts for her. I really am in a rut right now, i just need answers and fast.
2006-08-24 10:33:34 · 33 answers · asked by itsaherb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
wow that is really cool that you are 15 and trying so hard to get along with your sister. i was pretty much in the same situation im the big sister(i'm 21) and my little sister(who is 19 ) used to fight like crazy whe stopped the arguing about the same time. i was 18 and she was 15. i came up with some things that i think could really help you out. we started out at each others throats and now we are best friends. ok first of all a fight goes two ways, no matter what happens be calm with her if she does something to you dont go off and start yelling talk to her. for example my little sister would borrow my stuff without asking. instead of screaming at her i would say. i dont mind if you wear my shirt but please ask first that way i know what happened to it. on the other hand if she is yelling at you same thing, be calm. say something like, im sorry i shouldnt have done that i dont want to argue with you about it and then explain your self. if you two are fighting and you cant swollow your pride and admit you were wrong you wont get anywhere. last this is, she is older and at 19 i'm sure she is pretty mature. point it out to her that you guys fight to much. tell her exactly how you feel. if you sit down and talk about it at least she will know you dont want to fight. she is your sister and you love her and you wish you guys could get alone right? tell her. i really hope some of this will be helpfull it worked for me. some of it might sound cheezy but try it. your sister sounds lucky to have such a good little brother!!! GOOD LUCK! sorry i know this is a lot but one more thing, your sister might just be bossing you around because she loves you and wants to see you do right i did it to my sister
2006-08-31 17:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by annabella b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it seems awkward to confront her and talk to her abt getting along. So u can start by saving up some money, buy her a present for her birthday or somehing. But buy her something gd and useful and of value that she would like. For instance, an Ipod wld be cool. That is the first step that will wanna make her get along with u as well. But if u happen to quarrel after u gave her the Ipod, dont bring it up or even ask for it back, as she wld most probably use it to break ur face. My sister always throws things at me whn she quarrel.
2006-08-29 21:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by Libra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know me and my little sister Lily fight all the time but that doesn't mean we don't love each other, now at the birthday party if she tries to start something then try....no mater a fact just ignore her and since it drives you insane when she start stuff with you then maybe it will drive her insane that your not going to stoop to her level trust me this always work, and remember that if her bothering you drives you crazy then you ignoring her drives her even more insane than you are!!!!!!!
Good Luck and I hope you two get along soon!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-01 06:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the saying goes, "If you want to have friends, be friendly". If all you are going to do is argue, then you will keep on fussing and fighting. I suggest you try to go out of your way being nice to everyone, NO MATTER WHAT they do. You will eventually have them wondering why you aren't fighting, especially if you walk away when one is going to start. You may be called names, etc. for not fighting back, but if you are the better person, who is the peacemaker, you will go a long way towards having better relationships. Also try to find out what would really please them and make them happy, then do it (as long as it doesn't break the law or violate someone else's rights). Soon you will find that they will be returning "niceness" back to you in ways maybe you never thought about. Remember, it takes two to fight.
2006-08-30 08:20:15 · answer #4 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there...my sis and I used to get into arguments lots too...and now we are "matured" more being she is 32 and I am 30 we get along better(not the best of friends, but sometimes that is never going to happen)... just give it time...your sis is busy with her new life, college, new place to live....so a little brother is not exactly her priority...but that doesn't mean she doesn't love you any less....Hang in there
2006-08-29 10:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by City_Larkii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your older sister is going away to college soon, you'll be getting a break from each other, which is probably a good thing.
My sister (4 years older) and I used to fight all the time too, but after we grew up we became good friends.
2006-09-01 09:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by parachute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude every one fights and gets into sh**y little arguments with their sibs i mean like im only 14 and my sis is 16 and its a bl**y good thing that our parents are split up for one reason... so i can get the hell away from her.Shes always getting me in trouble and now my mun don't even listen to my side of the story cause my sis has brain washed her to thinking that its all my fault.
But being the youngest it is usually blamed on you. Shes just lucky that your a guy (cause guys arnt suposed to hit gulls).Lol.
2006-08-30 19:41:49 · answer #7 · answered by Lanjella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things will get better when she goes to college. I was in a similar situation with my younger sister. Things have definitely improved between us since she moved out.
2006-09-01 08:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly that's what being siblings are all about. I use to fight like mad with my brother. But thankfully we all grow up when we both started our own families we discovered how important family is. We are now as close as can be. Just keep loving your sister and do believe she loves you.
2006-09-01 05:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by aly_girl501 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When having a disagreement or argument with anyone, the most important thing you can do would be to use "I" statements. For example, instead of saying, "You make me so mad because..." a better statement would be, "I get upset when this happens...." (whatever this is). When you use "you" statements, it automatically puts the other person on the defensive.
Try it and see what happens...
2006-08-24 10:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by jstanfield1218 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋