i'm having trouble taking care of my first one with out a man. i don't know waht to do when the second kid comes. please help me figure out what to do entill March
2006-08-24 09:48:38 · 30 answers · asked by First Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's ok. i'm in the same situation and i'm seperated from my husband. and im 19. my second baby is due in dec. look for support groups in your area. get all the help u can get ur hands on. it's not easy to be an independent woman but u can do it if i can. best of luck. by the way, don't listen to everyone elses ignorant, rude comments. no one is perfect.
2006-08-24 09:55:00 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should stop being so relyant on a man and take some time out and become more self sufficient. if you are talking about money wise then there are government programs that you can get into. also if medicate is available where you are then it will also help with child care cost. i am a single parent and know how tiring it can be. i also hold a full time job so i reli on my family. if you have family around maybe they could help you. but it really sound like the last thing you need is another man in your life until you can get your self and your children situated.
2006-08-24 17:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mysti F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously consider adoption. There are so many parents out there that would be able to give your child the love and stability he/she needs. That would be the greatest gift you could give this child. Call your local adoption agency, and go to planned parenthood or your obgyn and get on birth control as soon as you can after the baby is born. Good for you for admitting that you don't think you can take care of another child, now do what's best for him/her.
If you find a loving family to give your child to...they may be able to help pay prenatal expenses. I would be willing to give you more info if you need...
2006-08-24 16:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by gurugirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its obviously too late to ask you why you got pregnant again without the father wanting to marry you, be dad etc. WHY? and now you are asking what to do.
Well those poor kids did not ask to be born and they will be looking up to you to take care of them in every possible way. I dont know which country you reside but if in UK or USA you will be able to get benefit to look after them that is shelter, food and clothe yourself and them.
I wonder too how old you are? Anyway I trust you will find a way to take care of YOUR kids and reap the rewards when they give you a smile, hug etc. I do hope you are not considering adoption. In any event you should consult family planning for advice.
2006-08-24 16:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your local health department or social services can help you get in touch with the proper programs to help with medical bills, food, and even utility bills.
But... just because you've fallen on hard times does not mean you NEED a man. So far it doesn't seem like you've had the best luck with men, maybe you should try to focus on your children and yourself before jumping into another relationship.
2006-08-24 16:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by Katie A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that in some areas they offer WIC...women infants and children..this program helps you get food and diapers and formula necessary for the baby...if you have any other resources (such as parents ) available for help I would recommend getting their help and getting a decent job..some jobs will even offer daycare reimbursement. You can do it--trust me---you don't need a man---but it will take a lot of work...just get through it one day at a time.
Good luck.
2006-08-24 16:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by vdubbchick 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU have YOURSELF in a real mess. Talk with a Women's Center to console you but it's not going to be easy. I guess you know you should be more responsible with your body. Good luck, I guess. I hope you get smarter before Baby # 3 is on the way.
2006-08-24 16:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by EMAILSKIP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously though, i am not trying to come down on u but u really should have thought about all of this BEFORE u got pregnant w/ the second. why didnt u use protection? why get pregnant by another deadbeat? its really too late now so i guess u need to look at ur options. maybe u should consider putting ur baby up for adoption or grow up, be a woman, and take care of ur responsibilites. thats what i did
2006-08-24 16:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by the_kid_doesnt_care 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
why are you having kids without a husband? get married first before you start having kids out of wedlock. second of all use birth control or tie your tubes until you finallly find the right man to marry you and the kids. DON'T have no more unprotected sex. ask the guys if they want to marry and could they see themselves marrying you? date a guy for several years before you get married and have unprotected sex. for now on focus on your children, day care, work, and maybe attend college to better your family's life. take 1 class, they are offered on saturdays and on-line. join a support group and try at church. god bless sister! and one last thing, APPLY FOR CHILD SUPPORT, CHILD SUPPORT because you need it and pray to GOD. women have been raising children by themselves for centuries.
2006-08-24 17:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by averilyn06 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Try to get assistance from the government, thats why we pay our tax dollars so people wouldn't have to be put in situations like that. I know they give money to people who are trying to make a living for them and their child to put the kids in a daycare while you try to work.
2006-08-24 16:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋