and shes coming home today and coming over for her anserw im not in love with her anymore because she has been in anther country for over a yr and i dont know how to break it to her should i just be honest or idk what to do i still would like to date her and maybe refall in love with her but atm i dont love her, should i just say yes and hope for the best or break her heart i dont know what to do
2006-08-24 09:36:51 · 11 answers · asked by sw!ss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the fact that she asked you such an important question in an e-mail speaks to just how serious she really is, as well. It's hard to imagine that she might actually consider wanting to spend the rest of her life with someone she can't even be bothered to ask about marriage in person.
As for your answer, I think you've got it already. If you don't love her, how can you possibly agree to marry her? The marriage proposal is supposed to come AFTER you've fallen in love and established a strong relationship. You're worried about breaking her heart now - imagine how heartbreaking it will be down the road when you've tied the knot and possibly even had a child or two together and you decide you just can't do it anymore because you never fell in love again.
2006-08-24 09:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, don't do that. Cuz the easy way out for her is just getting the yes. I say if she isn't been away in another country for a year for a legit reason then no, she doesn't just deserve a yes. I mean you shouldn't go through something like that cuz you could be ruining your own life. I don't know your gf very well, but who knows what she has been doing in that other country for a year. She probably came very close to cheating on you over there so she is asking you to marry her over the computer. I still say tell her all of what you said here that you don't love her, and make her work on getting your love back. Cuz marriage could just be the easy way out from her temptation of someone else. And you don't deserve that.
2006-08-24 17:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NEVER SAY YES UNLESS YOU'RE 100%.
You seem like a decent man from your post. Be honest with her, tell her your thoughts and your feelings.
I guarantee you she'll be glad that you told her NOW instead of deceiving her by saying yes.
If she really loves you and wants to be with you, then she will understand your thoughts about what it is that you'd like to do.
Yes, it may hurt her for a bit initially, but it's for the best.
Blessings To You & Yours
2006-08-24 16:44:41 · answer #3 · answered by Pastors Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're definitely not ready, but definitely not sure you want this to end. Be honest. She's been gone. Now that she's back you need to spend time together to be sure what's going on between you. You obviously care and value her. You're not sure how much or in what way, but you seem to want to find out. Tell her that.
2006-08-24 16:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She knows this or she wouldn't have taken the chicken $hit way of asking through email. Tell her.
2006-08-24 16:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weeeeeeeeird. Ok, just tell her. Seriously, the quicker the better. Don't stall.
2006-08-24 16:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by Not Your Average Bat Taz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be completely honest with her about all of it. Honesty is always your best bet.
2006-08-24 16:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by Inquisitive1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no, but do it with heart and consideration of her feelings.
2006-08-24 16:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth
2006-08-24 16:39:29 · answer #9 · answered by aggie babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her whats in ur heart
2006-08-24 16:41:07 · answer #10 · answered by ~♥love♥~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋