i have a cousin that is related to me through marriage and he is now 20 and i am only 15...he told me that he was attradted to me and that he felt this way for awhile now...i didn't know what to do......he kissed me and i pulled away but he didn't wanna stop...i felt very weird after that and i didn't want to go any where around my family...what should i do???
2006-08-24 09:22:00 · 18 answers · asked by Nissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should talk to your parents about this. He is 20 and you are only 15....that in itself is disturbing. He made an unwanted advance toward you and did not stop when you rejected it. Red Flag #2. He is also family. That is 3 strikes right there. I would honestly talk to someone about this. It could develope into a much worse situation that you will not be able to handle on your own. What he is doing is morally and legally wrong. It is considered child molestation especially if you tried to pull away and he still forced himself on you. It will take courage but you can do this. Talk to a parent or family member ASAP. Don't be a victim to this man!
2006-08-24 09:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by geni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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This is called INCEST.
Don't allow yourself to get pulled into this, even though he's so full of compliments. Now matter what he says, and how good it makes you feel, ...
later on, this is going to feel nasty and cheap and just against everything moral and just plain WRONG !!!
What do you do? The same thing you'd do with any unwelcome advances from anyone...when he gets too close to your space MOVE yourself away. How hard is that?
If he says more advancing things, just say with a nice smile "No thank you, I'm not interested in you that way."
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT to turn down advances from ANYONE you want...it's your life, and ONLY YOU are respeonsible for your own behavior and your own choices. 15 is young, ok, so you had to learn a little early...but this is not the only time you'll have to fend off unwelcome advances from whomever.
Be nice, and be positive in your "NO"
stw
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2006-08-24 09:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let your parents know what he did to you and let them know that he kissed you as well. Let them deal with it because he may try something more serious next time like trying to have sex with you and if the 2 of you are alone for whatever reason he may just rape you. don't ever put anything past a person like this guy. He is 20 and you are only 15 and in most states that rape if he touches your or kisses you in ways that you are not comfortable with. Tell your parents and be honest with them.
2006-08-24 09:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only bad thing about having sex with a cousin is that if you get pregnant, chances that you get a defective baby are BIG. But there is protection against pregnancy. So, if you are careful, then I do not think there is anything wrong with having sex with a cousin.
But the age difference is bad. He is an adult and you are not. Legally speaking it is wrong and it could be considered abusive. Talk to your parents.
2006-08-24 09:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by iamalion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to tell your parents about it ? I think you should. I know it might be very uncomfortably to be around your cousin but he needs to understand you guys are family and that you don't see him as anything more than that.
2006-08-24 09:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run, This man is 5 years older than you and his kisses may lead to something else. Plus if it makes you feel uncomfortable you should tell someone close to you and make it clear to him that you don't feel the same way
2006-08-24 09:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by rejoice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are this isn't the end of it. Tell your parents or other family member immediatly. Nip this thing in the bud right now before it gets out of hand.
2006-08-24 09:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by NEUMS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him family is off limits. IF he is 20 and doesnt know that by now then ur family has some problems
2006-08-24 09:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by lolli_pop69_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of your self,go tell your parents and don't leave out any details. That guy is a pedophile in the making,don't be his first victim.
2006-08-24 09:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. You are way to young-just a kid and he is 20! Tell your parents honey!
2006-08-24 09:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋