Discipline?Hurtful?

Question

How come parents say when they are disciplining their child they say it hurts me more thatn it hurt you?

Answer 1

Discipline is something that is necessary. No one wants to do it, but they realize that to teach right from wrong, it is imperative. When they say this hurts me more than it hurts you it's because to a parent, you are an extention of them. My mom once said, "You're like my arm or my leg. I made you."
So they want to protect you and would take every tear from your eye so you'd never have to feel bad. In order for you to become a good person there must be consequences though. That's how it is in the real world.

Answer 2

although when a child is being disciplined it hurts the child but it hurts the parents because we know that we have good kids and the kid just made a bad choice. Parents hate to discipline they would rather be fun and caring, but part of being a parent is teaching a child right from wrong.

Answer 3

I believe they say it when they spank a child. It is because no one wants to physically hurt their child but if consequences haven't worked sometimes it is the next step. I don't agree with as a daily punishment and most families shouldn't use it alt all because they don't know to stop at a spanking and get rougher each time. Discipline is a daily routine where rules and consequences are set and told to each family member at the same time.That way the child knows beforehand what his choice and consequence is so he can make an informed decision. If he doesn't do a chore or homework he knows that x will happen.

Answer 4

When I discipline my two kids (5 and 3), I know it makes me feel awful to deprive them of anything the want - whether its a new toy, staying up late, or jumping on the furniture. When parents say "it hurts me more..." they are trying to express to their children that they would like to do everything for them and give them the world, but in order to help them grow up and be responsible members of society, they have to draw some boundaries and enforce some rules. Hope that helps.

Answer 5

It hurts us to be mean to our children. We want the best for them and in order for us to set you straight.....learn lessons we sometimes have to discipline them. We all get frustrated and we all lose our patience but after its all said and done we also feel the remorse, but we know its what needs to be done.

It works out for the best in the longrun although it hurts both sides. Child abuse is not the appropriate form of discipline though so seek guidance if this happens.

Answer 6

Because Parents don't like disciplining their Children. But sometimes they have to. It comes with being a Parent.

Answer 7

In some cases that may be true. I hate to punish my kids. Spanking them is my very last resort but I will do it if I have to. But the look on their faces, especially my youngest when he gets in trouble just about kills me. He's such a teddy bear but he has to know when mommy says do something or don't do something he has to listen. I'm sure a lot of parents feel that way. My mom used to say the same thing to me when I was a kid.

Answer 8

Because you don't want your children getting into trouble, but at the same time you have to teach them right from wrong. I can't stand taking away things from my kids or grounding them, but I know I have to. It hurts horribly to see them upset, I love them so much. I want them to have the best in life and succeed. Taking away the computer or phone makes me feel like I'm taking away their freedom. If your not a parent, you will fully understand some day.

Answer 9

I think it is because deep down inside, parents who use pain as punishment know that it is wrong to hurt their child physically and emotionally. But unfortunately they do it anyways. Alot of parents feel better when they spank their kids because they do it out of anger and get a relief feeling afterwards. Using pain for punishment is ineffective and a wimpy, lazy way of parenting. I have 3 children and never use pain to punish. My discipline techniques don't hurt me because I know I am teaching my children how to solve problems, gain self-esteem and become respectful and happy. They are well behaved. I use time out and removal of privileges. Works for us. I could never hurt my children.

Answer 10

I think it's because you hate to see your child sad, and you hate to be mean to your child. I can understand how it would hurt the parent more than the child. The parent understand both feelings.