half of my family hates the other half and i want to have my family there
2006-08-24 09:09:48 · 22 answers · asked by jennifer h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Are there "ring leaders" in these two factions of your family? Often in these cases there are just a couple of people who can manage to keep everyone stirred up. If so talk to these two people. Invite them out to lunch or something and say to them exactly what you have said here. Adults should be able to be mature enough to understand and be able to put you first.
If they are not mature enough to be civil for your sake at something like an anniversary party, would the simplest way be to have two separate but smaller events? The anniversary is about you and your husband, and it is nice to celebrate with family, but it is difficult to control others.
Another option might be to have a good mix of family and friends at one big event so there are lots of people to mingle.
Your dilemma seems to be a tough one. I hope you get some good suggestions for sorting it out. Best of luck with it.
2006-08-24 09:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You really have a big problem. You may have to write letters explaining to your family that you want to celebrate with them but because they don't get along you do not want your anniversary spoiled. It is not your fault that people are so evil in their hearts. that is the problem with the whole world today, if you can solve this one you should become an ambassador to nations. The truth is that I see families hating one another more and more.
I think you should lay it all on the line and tell them exactly how you feel. I have people in my family the same way. I live at least 600 miles from any of my family. Any of them may visit, I am a generous and good host. I let them all know that I love them. Any one of them who acts wrong I lovingly show them how near it is to their round trip ticket, or where they can get their car tuned up for a safe trip back to wherever they came from, that's scary because I really am one of the good guys.
2006-08-24 16:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by theodore r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulation on being together for 10 years, quite an achievement these days.
Have the party. Whoever comes to it should be coming to celebrate your anniversary, if they decide to fight, so be it, it really is not your problem.
Get someone to go around with a videocamera and promise a screening of it at the end of the evening, nobody wants to be seen as argumentative in front of a camera, they will all be on best behaviour.
Have a great party.
2006-08-24 16:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by sarah b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't invite my family. I would make it a day about me and my spouse and forget everyone else. If you absolutely want to have some family there you should sit down and make a list of the people that can get along with everybody. If there are certain troublemakers, leave them out. Anyone who has an unreasonable chip on their shoulder about anyone else, should not be invited to the party. This way you're taking a stand and showing your family that you will not put up with their immature games. Maybe they'll learn to get along.
2006-08-24 16:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by gurugirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-24 16:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just have a good time try to ask if the family could maybe get along for your special occasion. if that doesn't work ask if they could just come but not speak to the people they dont get along with and make sure they are sitting at least a few metres away! if not have two seperate partys one for one half another for the other half or even celerbrate it with the only person needed there which is your husband!! good luck!!
2006-08-24 16:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by XXPrincessOfFashionXX 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats easy of course u wanna have all the people u love there sooo have two different parties just cut the cost in half for what u had wanted to spend in the 1 party~~~ Good luck!!
2006-08-24 16:16:18 · answer #7 · answered by Salsera 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just invite who you want and let people know if they can't be civil then they need not come that is what i did at my wedding 7 years ago and when my 10th anniversary is i will do it again and don't worry about hurt feelings apparently they can not worry about yours to much if they decide to fight. Good Luck and Happy Anniversary.
2006-08-24 16:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by farmerwoman4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would probably not be a good idea to put them together in one room and serve alcohol... (if you were even thinking about it)
Don't feel bad. Many family do not get along that well.
2006-08-24 16:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you just ask them to do it for you and if not then give them a huge speach that will make them feel like total butt holes. Or your just barking up the wrong tree, have two parties.
2006-08-24 16:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋