Due to logistcs challenges, we end up having 2 receptions. My mother-in-law wants us to do something eventful - like redoing our vows which we did 2 month ago. I respect her idea that she does not want guest feel like 2nd class who was not invited to the real wedding, but I feel vow is sacred and should not be repeated just for performance sake without context. What other eventful "wedding" thing can we do to at the 2nd reception to make the guests who comes from afar satisfied...? I will really appreciate any help! Thanks!
2006-08-24 08:57:38 · 9 answers · asked by bocadillos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I completely agree with your view of the vows. I may be looking at a similiar situation when I get married and that thought has crossed my mind.
Why do you need to have another ceremony? Make the second reception a full-blown wedding reception - all the traditional dances (although you might want to call it a "husband wife dance" instead of a "first dance"), cake, dinner, dancing, reception games, guest book, a big old "welcome the newlyweds" entrance... the works! The wedding is over, but you are celebrating your marriage.
If you are "forced" to have another ceremony, create it yourselves to be a re-affirmation of your vows. My guy tells me that every morning when he wakes up he thinks "today, I recommitt myself in love to this relationship." You could take the idea that marriage is a constant committment to each other and run with it, publically declaring your love and your status as a couple.
2006-08-24 09:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are completely right, that there is no reason for you to renew your vows after 2 months! I understand that no one wants these guests to feel like the leftovers who weren't invited for the first one, but that's really how it is. They are well aware of that fact.
Treat like a reception that follows a small private ceremony; people do this all the time when the ceremony needs to be small, but they want a large amount of people to celebrate with them. You can do the first dance again, and a special dance to honor him and his mother. Have a cake, etc; basically all the reception stuff.
A video show of the wedding would be a very nice addition. But don't show videos of the reception, just the ceremony. Otherwise, the guests will compare their party with the first one.
These guests are not expecting a cermony, they are expecting a party. Give them what they are expecting.
2006-08-30 10:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about printing them out in some form so that they can be given as favors or part of the invitations for the 2nd reception? Something elegant and tactful. Then, talk to your MIL about turning the 2nd reception into more of a celebration so you can take some of the tradition out and just enjoy the event. Most of the guests came help you enjoy your day. I don't think too many of them will go home thinking the worst. Bounce some ideas off your MIL. She might surprise you. If not, just do what you want, it's your reception. Sometimes people lose of that. Good Luck.
2006-09-01 15:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A photo montage (what the previous poster mentioned) is actually a pretty good idea. I was at a wedding not to long ago where at the reception they showed a 200 picture photo montage. It turned out to be around 20 minutes long and was very nice because it wasn't only about them (the bride and groom), it also incorporated pictures of their entire family and many generation, even some who were long gone (deceased). So it was something that everyone was interested in watching because they didn't know if and when their picture would pop up. Everyone loved it and the applause at the end was incredible. For more details on photo montages go here http://advancedvideo.50webs.com
2006-08-24 22:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have a slide show of the two of you. Starting back when you were kids, threw your dating, and then your wedding. Those people are not going to feel like second class guests! You are just throwing another party!
2006-08-24 19:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be great to have a video show of your wedding. I do not think people will feel second class. I agree with you about the vows.
2006-08-29 04:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do first a religious ceremony and reception
and then you can do a small affair the day you get your marriage licence signed.
Good luck
2006-08-24 16:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vows aren't any less sacred just because you do them twice, grow up and make your MIL happy.
2006-08-24 16:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
use doves...and sea shells...with lots of candles... more fairy tale like,,,
2006-08-30 17:32:17 · answer #9 · answered by lapeachroses 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋