Help me Plz!?

Question

I am 19, I am 4'10 and I've been in the army for just about a year and I have a really serious problem,... Everyday I get teased about my height. For a while I've put up with the name calling and all the jokes but now it is really starting to break me down. To day I just left work went home and cried. I thought about suicide, this isn't the first time either. It really is taking it's toll on me mentally and I just don't know how to...cope with being everybody's JOKE. I can't help that I am short, and of course I myself have no problem with it, I don't HATE being short but the taunting and teasing everyday has just worn my nerves. To make it so bad, these are grown adults, 25 and up that do this to me and I don't understand why. Somebody just give me some good words of advice,..something because I really am considering just giving up on life...the only thing that has stopped me in the is when I think of my Mother and my fiance,I would hate to leave them behind in the world.....

Answer 1

deal with it. You're a big boy and if you're in the army for about a year now, you already know how to kill people in at least 45 different ways. Forget the haters. Love yourself.

Answer 2

Hello Nicole,
First off, let me say, “Thank you soooo much for all that you are doing to help protect the rest of us”. You and everyone else who are doing their part to serve this great country and preserve our freedom are all my heroes.
Secondly, way back in the dark ages, when I was in high school, I had a friend, Julie, who was 4’11”. She also graduated in the top 10 of our class.
The first thing to remember is that everyone is important. Everyone has qualities that make them special. Everyone has beautiful characteristics. You are always going to run into people who will tease and ridicule people for any reason that can find. The best thing you can do is to, first, tell them how you feel about what they are saying. Let them know that it is hurtful and that it is getting old and you are tired of it. If they are truly your friends they will stop, if they do not stop, then they are not your friends, and they are certainly not adults.
We are all made differently for a reason. If we were all the same, just think how boring life would be. You are the way you are, on purpose. And you are most certainly here in this world on purpose also. So what ever you do, please do not disappoint the rest of us, by removing a special element of this world way too soon.
Also the only real opinion that really counts is your own. As long as you are happy with you, then no one else really matters.
Stay true to yourself, and stay the beautiful, special person that you are. :)

Answer 3

Put a possitive spin on being short. I'm sure there are some good things about being short. You should make a list for yourself right now. Also, if you start laughing at the jokes or making light of it -as if you think it is funny to be short too - they may get bored with teasing you and stop. They enjoy it now because they are getting some kind of rise out of you. Some how you have to learn to laugh at yourself - and try to find humor in the situation. If they are saying things just to be mean then youre laughing it off might make them stop. But if they are teasing you because they think you like the attention then maybe you should talk to them... Hope it works out.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry that you feel that way. I've always wished I was shorter. I'm 5'7" and that's far from petite. The only thing I can think of is for you to start teasing them back. Try cracking jokes about them being amazons, etc. I hope you're talking to your fiance about this stuff? Obviously he loves you, and that should be all that matters. Try to think about your future and enjoy being you. Remember also, this is a human rights issue and you cannot be harassed if you don't want to. If it gets to be too much, you can talk to a lawyer, but make sure that you tell some of these folks that are teasing you that it's getting on your nerves.

Answer 5

This is hard. Smile at these jerks (and yes, they are jerks) and say to them, "I am as tall as I need to be."
I was teased through out grade, middle, and high school for my thick glasses and really curly hair. I was a lot younger than my classmates because I had skipped grades. One day, I didn't care anymore. I told someone off, saying that I thought he needed a lot more in his life to do than call me fuzz head four eyes. I didn't loose my temper, I never raised my voice.
If you get lonely and lost and suicidal, don't let them win. They pick on you because there is something lacking in THEM not because you are short!
Email me at [e-mail] if you want to chat. BTW, May God Bless you for being in the Army at this difficult time.

Answer 6

Honey you need to remember that dynamite comes in small packages! Height is nothing to think about suicide. You are just as God made you and that is the only thing you need to worry about. God made you small for a reason. Don't think about killing yourself over some morons. And suicide ultimately leads to an eternity in Hell! Please you don't want to be there the rest of eternity. You just think their joking was hard. Think about your soul burning forever. Be happy you are alive and thank God for your life. Wheither you are short or not. I am not much taller and I get the short jokes all the time too. I am happy with my life and no one will ever be able to make me happy like God does.

Answer 7

Well please do not kill yourself. That is the way the good Lord made you and Im sure youre a fabulous person. However I say thank you for serving in the Army, it takes a great person to do that, no matter what you do. Dont hate being short its who you are its what makes you unique. You have a lot to love for trust me youre only 19. And let me tell you from experiencing a suicide from someone important (mother in law) its terrible and it hurts the ones that love you dearly. I would be absolutely devastated if one of my children did that. The people who are teasing you obviously have the mental capacity of a friggin ant, maybe less. Do you think that they are teasing to piss you off or just to play around. If they are your good friends then they will truly understand if you just plain ask them to stop. Good luck in this and please dont do anything to hurt yourself, youre beautiful.

Answer 8

First, it's okay to feel the way that you're feeling.

Second, you might want to consider seeking out a counselor there in the military. They usually have counselors on staff, so you can probably find one to speak to. You should especially seek someone out if you are feeling suicidal. If you can't find resources there, you can always call one of the national hotlines:

1-800-SUICIDE
1-800-273-TALK

Third, if someone is harassing you, you can ask them to stop. It is good to confront people and let them know how their comments make you feel.

If that doesn't work, you can report their behavior to a superior officer, or through a grievance procedure.

Do what you can to take care of yourself. Good luck.

Answer 9

How do you react when teased? In my life, people who tease are looking for something:

Someone to react unreasonably
To make themselves look better/feel better
To take attention off of their own shortcomings

As one who has been teased often, I can relate. What you might want to do is "control the situation" instead of allowing their barbs to control you. If someone starts to tease you, instead of either shrinking down and looking away, boldly look them dead square in the eye as they say what they have to say. That will slow them down to begin with. After they have completed their boneheaded comment, ask them (in a stern voice) "Are you through?" They may try to continue, so fold your arms, look them dead in the eye and let them finish whatever follow-up foolishness they have to say. Reply to that "Get it all out, because it's really starting to get old. Maybe after this time, you can move on and act a little bit like a grown up". That will make them feel stupid, so they will attempt to attack a little harder. Stand your ground, listen to their idiocy and serve them with a withering look the whole time. From that point onward, treat each encounter exactly that same way. In time, when people see that they are not getting the reaction that they want from you (you are not showing weakness and backing down, nor are you spazzing out, etc.), they will move on because the "fun" will be gone. You may have one or two "hard heads" who keep on, but peer pressure will take over for them and picking on your will start to look pathetic. In time, because you stood your ground, some of the people who teased you will start to respect you and you may make a friend or two out of it all.

Answer 10

GOD Made you the way you are for a reason. When i feel bad about my self. All i have to do is,think about all the people that are born deformed,retarded, with two heads,no arms etc. And they keep on trucking and enjoying life. And i feel very ashamed of myself and snap out of it. Everyone is different. Next time someone makes fun of you, Tell them its better than looking like you.

Answer 11

On your feet soldier , keep your head up back straight and just handle it. Dont let anyone ruin your dreams , go to your c.o and discuss the situation. Do not wallow when people are directing there attention at you like this its taking there mind off there own problems. Find a way to deal never consider harming yourself.