am i the only one who has been repeatedly date raped taken advantage of and never told?

Question

am i the only one who has been repeatedly date raped taken advantage of and never told anyone? Why do I want to protect the attackers?

like if i say no and he keeps touching me and i warn him not to but he keeps on until he penetrates. i cant fight back because i feel like they might kill me.

then i cant tell anyone because i dont want people to think bad things about him and also that will put attention on me too for being a bad girl. :(

Answer 1

No, you're not the only one. There are lots of reasons some women don't report being raped. Examples:

--Worries about an invasive medical exam
--Worries that she won't be believed
--Worries that there is not enough proof
--Worries that she is at fault because she made bad decisions before being raped
--Worries that she will be accused in the media
--Worries that she will have to testify about her private life
--Worries that if only she had said "No" louder, or more often, or screamed, or fought back, then the rape wouldn't have happened
--Worries that maybe she led the rapist on and he's really a nice guy who misunderstood
--Worries that it wasn't really rape because she was on a date with the guy, or was alone with him in a room or a car, or because she was okay kissing him and making out, but not when he forced her to have sex, or because she was drunk when it happened.

So yeah. Many women are raped and don't report it. Being raped is bad. Sometimes, for some women, the consequences of reporting the rape make a bad event even worse, and they don't report it.

Calling it "date rape" doesn't make it any less of a crime or any less evil than rape by a stranger or family member. If the man physically forces the woman to have sex, that's rape. If the woman is unable to consent or resist due to alcohol or drug use, that's rape. If the man threatens to hurt her, that's rape. It doesn't matter what the man and woman were doing 10 minutes before.

I'd recommend that you report the rapes, even though it has been a while.

I put up a link that might be helpful for you.

Answer 2

You're definitely not the only one, but I seriously think you need some sort of counselling. It is NOT your fault at all, but you need to learn how to be more assertive. NO really means NO, no matter what he thinks. You are worth so much more than that, and you have every right not to be violated. Do you have really low self esteem, maybe? I know it may be hard to say no and be heard properly, but you must do it for yourself! Its never too late to make a complaint so make sure you tell someone! Don't worry about what other people will think of you, especially the prats who've done this to you! Ideally tell the police, because if he's done it to you, he will do it to someone else. You really are a wonderful person, and don't put up with that s**t ever again. If he doesn't listen to NO the first time, say it a little louder the second time while squeezing his testicles...Hard

Answer 3

First of all- this may have something to do with your definition of Rape- and or Date Rape in general. For those of us that have experienced this type of situation- I can't imagine allowing it to happen again. You may want to examin the situations you are putting your self into. Rape is NEVER the victims fault. However- if you are having sex that you don't want to be having for whatever the reason is- that is not rape. That's making bad decisions. That is not Rape. You should definatley consider your choice of surroundings and maybe even consider talking to a professional.

Answer 4

am i the only one who has been repeatedly date raped taken advantage of and never told anyone?

No,there are more but too ashamed,too scared,too quiet to go public.

Why do I want to protect the attackers?
Why would you want to protect them?Logic says don't but perhaps fear,shame,no financial power ,etc hinders the way to uncover that brutal force of manhood entrance,it's unlawful,never encouraged and yet it happens...

I feel really sorry for your pain and sufferings physically and psychologically.Hopefully one day those scars will heal--

Answer 5

are you attacking rapists because they are family, friends, co-workers, and teachers or cops, or important people in the community? who cares who they are, GOD does not like UGLY, so tell on them before they rape other innocent victims. the men have destroyed your mind. please go to your psychologist or make an appointment so he or she can help you report the rapes to the cops. or be bold enough, be a strong woman and call the cops. look Oprah the billionaire who came from a poor family was raped severl times and she reported them. stand up sister, cleanse your soul and put those bastards in prison!

Answer 6

usually in a date rape situation, you know and like the attacker at least a little bit. it can be hard to "tattle-tell" on them, but it needs to be done. i have personally never been raped, but i have quite a few friends who have been raped more than once and the most important thing is to tell someone you trust.

Answer 7

Don't listen to all these LOSERS who are saying you liked it. Sounds to me like you need to get yourself away from situations that can cause that kind of thing- to prevent it from happening again-- AND you are probably embarassed to tell anyone about it because you don't want to make a big scene and bring that kind of attention to yourself. Tell... you need to. They didn't respect you by taking something like that from you-- why should you worry about getting them in trouble?

Answer 8

repeatedly? hmmmmm sounds like there is a little more than meets the text.go with another couple in your own vehicle or better yet go to the dr 1st.

Answer 9

no you aren't the only one it happens to..It happened to me, but I put myself in the situation knowing that it would happen (ex boyfriend kept getting back together with, and would break up with because I wasn't ready...
after I broke up with a serious boyfriend because I wasn't ready with him either but wanted to with him, I went to the boyfriend who kept pushing for it..I knew that if I went to him that he would want to "do it" .. he got me knowingly drunk.... he knew I was drunk, before we even did anything I had told him I was drunk ....(he was/is a police officer) I believe that I was taken advantage of by him...(border line date rape...can't remember if I told him no, but him knowing that I was drunk borders the date rape line)
I never reported it because I had always thought of him as a "friend" thou he was a *** of a friend, and also I felt like an idot putting myself in a situation where I knew that would happen even if I wanted to get over my "hangups" of doing "it"... he shouldn't have gotten me drunk....

it does sound like you need help. you should seek counseling to help you with your issues years down the road this can effect you and any future relationships/marriages especially when it has to do with sex... good luck

Answer 10

Yeah, looks like you don't want it to stop. Nothing is wrong with it - but then don't call it rape..