Do you believe that a man who cheated can change ?

Question

Someone i cared about alot cheated then said it was a mistake , that he was weak and swore he would never do it again ! How can i believe that ?

Answer 1

If you let him off that easy, he'll assume that he can do it all he wants for the rest of his time in a relationship with you and you'll continue to take him back. He's not the only man out there-- and I guarantee if you left him, you'd find one that was so much better and more respectful.

Answer 2

Well doll, everyone is different. I am by far not a guy, but what I can tell is that I cheated on my man once in the past and highly regretted it. I don't know what I was thinking, but thats irrelevant. I broke his heart. After about three months of dating again we got back together and have been together ever since. It has been nine years and we are totally happy. Would I cheat again? ABSOLUTELY NOT! I learned that our love is real and I wouldnt trade it for anything in the world. So what you have to do is find out if he feels this way....if not get rid of him. If you decide to take him back just keep this in mind: Don't ever throw it in his face that he cheated, he knows this already. Remeber that you are the one who took him back. :D Hope I helped a little

Answer 3

I think he CAN change... but I also think this is not something that is going to be under YOUR control (it is really up to him, you can do nothing about it).

There is no reason why you should trust him. He has already broken that trust, he deserves no more.

He can and should change yes, but it is also good that he gets some sort of punishment for having cheated. Think of it, if he does not get any punishment, why should he ever change? He won't! He will keep on apologising, saying that he regrets it and keep on doing it because you (or others like you) tolerate it! It is not right, so do not tolerate it!

You can forgive him and be friends. Forgiving is a very good thing, and if he apologises then he deserves to be forgiven. But forgiving is one thing, and it does not mean that you should keep on with him. Forgive him and move on. You can stay friends, if you like. If you keep on with him the message he will get is: it's ok, I can do it again...

Move on, there are nicer guys out there and you deserve much better. Everybody does. Guys like that deserve another opportunity yes, but with someone else!

Good luck.

Answer 4

You better don`t believe it, otherwise you would be cheating yourself! If it was only once, you could accept it as a mistake, but if it has happened several times, there could be no excuse for doing it anymore! Besides, he is saying himself that he is weak, how could you believe that he wouldn`t do it ever again!

Answer 5

One of my really close friends cheated on his gf (one of my other friends) with another girl, and he said the same thing. And he was completely sincere, and nothing like that has happened since. Have a little faith in the guy. Give him another shot. He can't respect you if you don't respect him.

Answer 6

I believe he can change. You just have to have a forgiving heart and not throw it in his face all the time. Of course you will never forget it but if you really want to be with this person I say give him another chance.

Answer 7

You can't - he won't change. They all say they do, but they never do, they just do it over and over. Get away from him if you haven't already. If he was weak once, he can be weak again.

Answer 8

Nope! Nope! Nope!! Once a cheater, always a cheater!!! Sorry, but that's just the way it is. Don't believe it & don't give him the chance to bust you down again!!!

Answer 9

No. He's a dog. He'll do it again. Men are like that, it's time and oportunity with them. They don't care, sex is sex. It's the nature of the beast.

Answer 10

big NO!! he will not change, a cheater will always be a cheater....cheating is a psychological condition, not a mistake or an accident.....it is low self esteem, insecurity......and just lack of morals.........