2006-08-24 08:19:11 · 20 answers · asked by Luis R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can't tell her no. You can let her know what you think and how you feel, but it is ultimately her decision.
2006-08-24 08:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by Why do you ask? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that she is better than sliding down some poles. you are a man, so tell her no or you would leave her. stripping is disrespectful. what happened to her morals and values. are you two about to be homeless and this is why she needs a second job? if so, tell her you will work too? or is she doing this to get attention and to build up her self-esteem? does she owe a drug dealer some money? or is she money hungry? tell her to attend college so she can start an career with a lot of money such as nursing, marketing, doctor, physician assistant, or get into politics, or she can become an entrepreneur. for starters, being a teacher's aide is not so bad and when she get 60 college credits, she can become permanent and increase her salary.
2006-08-24 08:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by averilyn06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah... sorry... you can't tell her no. Even if you were married, you just can't control her. Even if it were legal... which it isn't... you can't guarantee control over another person unless they GIVE you that control.
So here's the deal. You can tell her that you wouldn't be comfortable with it. You can tell her that, if she becomes a stripper, then she's not who you thought she was. You can tell her it's a dealbreaker for you. You can tell her that if she does it, you will leave. But if you say those things and she does it anyway, you're going to have to deal.
Here's what you DON'T want to say. "If you really loved me, you wouldn't do it." Ask anyone who's been in a relationship with a drug addict or an alcoholic... that kind of manipulation never, ever works. It just makes YOU feel unloved and THEM resentful because you're trying to control and manipulate them.
Other things you don't want to say include "No woman of mine is going to...!", "You can't be a stripper, you're too fat" (whether it's true or not, you don't want to say it. She will NEVER lay you again if you do.), "I'll tell your mom, dad, family member who will disown you if you do." You get the point. (Even the stuff I said you COULD say can be taken that way if you're not careful about how you say them!) Any language aimed at forcing her to do things your way by playing on her feelings or fears is uncool.
2006-08-24 08:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by emma_UK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that there are several other jobs she can get other than stripping, I know why she wants to do it ( its great, i mean great money) if you know what your doing. tell her that you wouldn't be able to stand knowing that other guys are paying to have her strip. looking at the things only your eyes are suppose to see. Don't make it sound like your the man and you say no. Tell her why you don't want her doing that, tell her what she wants to hear, maybe she is waiting for you to tell her no. Maybe its a test to see if you would actually let her do that.
2006-08-24 08:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by grrrrme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from me. I used to dance for 2 1/2 years. i did it beacause i was living in my car and had no money. it was okay for a little while until everything starts to get to you. you start to look at every person differently and it makes it hard to trust anyone. it's a ver cutthroat business that is not worth it. you may feel good because you are bringing homme a lot of money each night, but it just makes it that much easier to spend more money anyways. people go in to those kind of places because thay want to feel special and to see flawless girls. yes, you may feel loved and pretty while you are there, under the blacklights to hide your flaws, wearing much more makeup, high shoes, and skimpy sexy clothes, but you will only feel worse when you get home. because all of that dissapears and you are yourself again.nothing special, just you. it feels a lot better to know that you actually work a regular job for your money. you dont want to be like that. it is a tough life and believe it or not, it will scar you forever. you can do better.
2006-08-24 08:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by java 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play the jealously role then tell her you have to much respect for her to see her do that, then see what she needs that she would consider this as a second job , and give it to her. Help her out so she doesnt have to go that route
2006-08-24 08:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by lasttruediva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What right do you have to TELL her what she can and cannot do? If she asks your opinion, then be honest...but she doesn't need your permission, just as you do not need hers.
If you have issues with the job, discuss them with her. The pay tends to be pretty good. What is your concern about it?
2006-08-24 08:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you are not comfortable with the stripping job.
2006-08-24 08:22:24 · answer #8 · answered by Teacher 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just say baby, i love you and i respect the whole idea that you want a second job but please respect me and my opinion.Ireally dont feel like its a good thing for you.
Then point out all the bad stuff that can happen like drunks can throw up on her, make her feel like a piece of meat,be raped after leaving the club or even worse.Some of those guys wanna take those fantasies home with them.
2006-08-24 08:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by FaeryKitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll make enough money stripping to quit her first job.
2006-08-24 08:24:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋