whenever we fight, he always leaves me at home with no money, no phone, and no car. knowing i have no friends it seems to make him happy knowing i'm sitting at home worrying about him. He lately has been hanging out with friends that he's know forever, but his ex girlfriend is always there. it makes me jealous and mad. if i were to do the same he would be so pissed.what do i do???
2006-08-24 08:16:59 · 65 answers · asked by java 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave him for good.
clearly he does not care about you, does NOT love you.
just move on with your life, and hopefully you will find a decent guy who would love you
2006-08-24 08:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He obviously does not respect you. If he gets mad at everything you do, then he doesn't really like you, he likes the person he's trying to make you become. Strike 1. Your his safety blanket. With no money, no car, and no friends your more than likely be there no matter when he comes home or with whom he come home. That's strike 2 for him and strike 1 for you. You really need to have your own life and your own friends, regardless of whether you have a significant other or not. Life is incomplete with out friendship/companion ship. 3rdly If he's not getting along with you and going out to where his ex girlfriend is, your being cheated on. Let me say this again so you get the point "YOU ARE BEING CHEATED ON". In this situation I know you want to believe the best of him. You did choose him to be your lover after all, but take it from me, he's cheating on you. Plain and simple. Strike 3 He's outta there. Best bet is to get out. Preferably while he is not home. If you try when he is home you might just discover how alone you really are, and that is a horrible thing to discover
2006-08-24 08:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds so familiar to me, The only advice i can give you is to look at your situation long and hard and decide if this is what you really want (i really dont think so) He cant think too much about you if he knows you are upset and it makes him happy, Possibly the reason you are mad and jealous is because you are insecure and deep down you know that the relationship is not going to work, In your situation (if it was me) i would have to get out of it to give myself the chance of having a life where i could be happy and meet someone who i made happy without having to try, You need to do something that will make you happy and forget him.
2006-08-24 08:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by sadmum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree dump him. And also find some friends, get a job and get yourself a cell phone. Don't depend on him. If he loves you, he will miss you when your gone and make changes. But you have to let him go and if he doesn't come back to you then that's great because I'm sure there is a great guy who is waiting for you out there.
Also, if you stay with him and he leaves "Break his crap" my guy did this a few times and I ripped up his dvd's, his cd's, and all kinds of stuff. Tell him it's your way of dealing with your frustrations! You could also leave first and slice his tires on your way out of the house. That way he has no where to go either and will have to pay for the damage. If he calls the cops just tell them he has a lot of friends that hate him and they probably did it.
2006-08-24 08:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by www.storkchat.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start saving your money, then get the heck out of there! Forget him, honey. He's a control freak and you deserve better. Leave him behind with his ex-girlfriend and his friends...there'll never be another you. Get out and don't go back. Move home, stay with friends, whatever you need to do to leave. Never, ever let someone take that much control over your life again. Good luck!
2006-08-24 08:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by HER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all gets some friends and do your own thing stop waiting for him .... I hope your not sitting in the living room looking out the window waiting for your so-called man to get home .?! girl just let him be the more you show it bothers you the more he is going to do it , however why is he hanging out with the old girlfriend and if he has been doing this for a while, why are you still in that relationship smell the coffee and get the hell out fast.....
2006-08-24 08:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by tinker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to start doing things on your own. get a hobby, you'll make friends!!!!!( I can't believe you have NO friends!!!!)
start doing things in your neighborhood that you can if you don't have a vehicle, take a walk. do you have family around that you can talk to? maybe you can find a job close to where you live? do you have children?
(I wish I could help you more, but I really don't know your situation and I hate to speculate,)
it sounds like you need to talk to him and find out if he still wants to have a relationship with you. it sounds like he's trying to get out.
you don't deserve to be treated like that!!!
next time he comes home tell him you have an appointment and TAKE THE CAR!!!! as soon as you can!!! go do something so he can think about YOU and worry about you.
even if you just go park somewhere!!!
and feel free to keep in touch w/ me!
believesndragons@yahoo.com
ok? hang in there!!!
2006-08-24 08:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by drgn grl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can't make him happy. Not because you are a bad person but because you aren't compatible or maybe he's just a jerk... He sounds pretty selfish. He might even pick fights with you so he can go out and mess around with his friends. Try finding someone who can be a little more about you. You deserve it.
Are you sure she's an ex?...
2006-08-24 08:20:24 · answer #8 · answered by snape4good 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to break up with him...... hes probably cheating on you.... tell him if he keeps treating you like **** then you are gonna leave!!! Be serious about it cause if you dont then he will keep running all over you!!
This same thing happened to me and I packed my **** and moved out of his house I was only gone for 3 hours and he was begging for me to come back, and that he was sorry. Well I stayed gone for about 4 days and guess what he has not treated me like that since.... we are getting married in December so good luck
2006-08-24 08:26:57 · answer #9 · answered by Groover_84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to ask yourself is: Are you happy with yourself? If the answer is no, then you're never going to be happy with anyone until you are. I learned this lesson a very long time ago and it's worked for me ever since.
You are not responsible for making your boyfriend happy. He's responsible for that. You are responsible for making yourself happy and that's it. If you're happy with yourself and he's still not happy, then it's him and not you and it's time for you to stand on your own. You shouldn't want to be with someone who is always unhappy with you or himself anyway. It's bad for your self esteem. He may not be unhappy with you, but unhappy with himself and projects it onto you. Get over him and on with your life! Life's too short to be stuck with someone like him! He'll just bring you down
2006-08-24 08:23:53 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why don't you stop arguing with him and ask him why he is upset with you? Be sure you are trying to be sweet and nice to him and be proactive - have a nice cold drink for him when he comes home for example. Don't worry if he is out with his ex girlfriend because that shouldn't concern you. What they do is their business. Just be the best you can be and hopefully you will be his first choice.
2006-08-27 13:39:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋