There's a shy guy that likes me, how do I get him to be comfortable enough to talk?

Question

I've been going to the same gym for awhile now, and this guy there always walks through the fitness area that I'm usually in, I guess to get my attention. He never smiles, but he makes eye contact all of the time, and likes to look at me when he thinks I'm not looking. He's never said anything to me yet, but just the other day as I was getting ready to leave from working out, the same guy walks right beside me and almost bumps into me. I think he may be shy, so what do you guys suggest I do to make him feel comfortable enough to talk? I'd like answers from both men and women. Thanks!

Answer 1

Smile...

It's simple and not too forward and you're probably receive a sign back either him getting red in the face and looking away, him smiling back, or even a wave!

Even something as simple as that can grab a guys' attention.

Good luck!

Answer 2

I'm quite shy and I hate it. I would say dont make it completely obvious that you think he's shy cos thats intimidating- sounds crazy but some of us just arent comfortable with someone who'll come up and go "hiiiiii!! you're kinda shy, aren't you??????" in front of everyone.

i would say be as relaxed as possible, talk about normal things in a normal way, don't look for an instant response cos you're jus not going to get it. if he's shy then he'll probably imitate what other people are to an extent, and if you look and feel relaxed then he will too. A simple compliment will go miles cos its polite. work on the body language too- it works

Answer 3

Since you both goto the gym, ask him about his workout rotuine or something that you think he might want to talk about. Smile and talk in a nice voice. I was a shy guy once before as well, and this is how my current girlfriend got my attention, by not being threatening. Shy guys are really scared of females for various reasons, so as long as you show him you want to be his friend, he'll let his guard down.

Answer 4

I have the same thing goin' on with me and this guy right now too! It's so tough, though cuz you don't wanna scare him away. Lately I've found that just making great eye contact (staring for the extra second) and giving him a sexy smile, is starting to open him up. Now we are at the point of actually having conversation....lol You have to be the aggressor, just make sure you don't come on too strong.... Think of it as a challenge and have fun with it!

Answer 5

The best thing I can suggest is that you make the first move by talking to him. Maybe that way he will open up and get comfortable in talking to you. If he still runs away, he has a real problem with talking to women and he needs help.

Answer 6

Always start a conversation with him and keep talking to him every time your there and then he will get comfortable and maybe even ask you out. Ask him about his work out schedule!!!

Answer 7

Ask someone whom he does speak with what his interests are, and ask him a question, or ask him why he is doing a certain move a certain way because you are trying to get results like him, and actively listen.
Don't come on real strong, come on slow, like it's his idea.

Answer 8

if you know he is shy wy dont you break the ice when he walks by you next time he walk sby out start by saying hi then it will progess from there you will be mad if someone gets him first

Answer 9

try to use innocent magic. U both r shy. Just take a shy fitnessdrink with him.

Answer 10

maybe you should just start talking to him and start and keep it light and simple. Say hi to him, and ask how his day and workout are going.. he will open up if he likes you