What do I do..?

Question

okay i have a boyfriend(brian) we have been together for 3 years and 7 months and we have broke up one time bc of family issues well anyways im in my last year of school and he is out of school.. well i have this friend Dylan and i like him a lil bit but not that much well i know that he likes me bc of how he acts and stuff well this past week he has been TRYING to get closer to me(like huggin me and ****) well today we were leaving school(Early...so we were the only 2 in the parkin lot) and he walks to my car and gives me a hug and i gave him one back well.. he kisses me...and not just a regular kiss on the forehead or something but on my mouth will tounge and well i liked it but if my boyfriend was to find out we would break up and i love brian more than the world itself...so what do i do.. just keep it to myself and tell dylan NOMORE? or wat... **please dont give me stupid answers** just kinda give me some support... :(

Dylan is my friend at school... and that is all we are its just that we are around each other alot and nothing has every even been talked about like that.. dylan is my best friend

Answer 1

Ok, so you made a mistake and let your friend kiss you probably because you were curious and wanted to know what it would feel like. If you really love Brian, then be honest with him, be open, and hopefully, if he loves you in return, he will accept your mistake and forgive you. If he doesn't or he gets emotional about it, then chances are he doesn't trust you very much, and maybe you should think about calling it off with him. The most important thing in a relationship is to BE HONEST. Chances are if you don't tell Brian yourself, he will find out some other way. Also, with Dylan, tell him NO MORE. Explain to him how you feel about him (he is a good friend etc...) but that the kiss was wrong and that you are in love with someone else. He will be understanding if he wants to remain your friend. Good luck! Feel free to email me if you need more advice:)

Answer 2

Okay you are in your last year of school. High School??? Or College. If its high school then you have been serious at a very early age and havent had time to look around. If its college then, this is the time when alot of young people get serious, and you've probably had time to be with others. To answer your question. You were wrong for kissing the guy..when he went to kiss you and then started sticking his tounge down your throat you should have slap him. That meant he has/had no respect for your relationship with your boyfriend. And since you didnt..you were in the wrong. If you loved your boyfriend ...you wouldnt have done it in the first place. I'm married, and if one of my close guy friends had done that--and I ALLOWED it ...I would be in the wrong. And if you think this is a "stupid answer" . So what! You arent going to get support for this one. You want someone to say" oh you poor thing--you had such a hard time not kissing this guy, and now you have to deal the the concequences of your action.--let's boo hoo for you. It was all that other guys fault" GROW UP lil girl! For every action there is a reaction. Thats part of life. And you are just being your life. And you could NOT tell you boyfriend, and him find out from someone else, ( I remember the gossip in high school) and he will be angry and hurt. Or you could do the grown up thing and tell him up front. He will still be hurt and betrayed (which he has every right) and he MIGHT forgive you. There is no excuse for what you did. Be prepared this is what life is all about. If you loved Brian sooo soo much...you wouldnt have allowed what happened to happen. You just dont put yourself in those siuations. It can only mean bad news! Good Luck! You'll need it!!

Answer 3

Well sweetie if you really cared for Brian you wouldn't treat him like that, going behind his back and thinking about what to do. You have to tell him either way, cause if it gets around, by Dylan saying something, rumours will fly and things will get worse. You have to decide what you want, if you say that you love Brian, then tell him what happened and say that its not going to happen again, that it didn't mean anything to you and that you told Dylan that you love Brian and you don't want to do anything that might jeopardize that relationship. You probably liked kissing Dylan because you felt rebellious, breaking the rules, and he was someone different than who you were used to (hopefully Brian). Ask Dylan what his intentions and hopes are for the two of you, if he really wants to be with you, then consider that, but you may find out that he just wants a little fun. Either way you have to tell Brian, 3.5 years...honesty needs to come into play!

Answer 4

I think that you can keep this one to yourself and tell the other guy that you have a boyfriend. If he already knows you have a boyfriend then I think you were definitely in the wrong and need to fess up. He should respect the fact that you have a boyfriend if he doesn't already know.

But to be crucially honest with you I think that this relationship was over when you started to talk to the other guy. If you have to dabble like that and then you end up kissing him, then what is next....I 'd rather not go there. But you be the judge of that.

They say when you cheat that there is a reason for it. You probably have gotten so comfortable with your boyfriend that now you are sick of the relationship and want a little excitement, which the other guy provides.

In the long run you should put yourself in your boyfriends position. And ask yourself how would you want to be treated?

Answer 5

Why would you let another man kiss you? Well.... guy... not man

But if this guy is going to kiss you KNOWING that you have a b/f, he is a POS and not the kind of guy you should be going out with.

Things are apparently going well with Brian so why did you cheat on him? YES a kiss like that is cheating if you kissed him back, especially if it went on for more than just a second.

If you love Brian you owe it to him to tell him, and say that you were caught up in the moment and you don't know how it happened. If he loves you enough he will stick around.

Answer 6

I think if you really love your boyfriend and want the relationship to work out, you should tell the other guy to back off because you have a boyfriend. Honesty is one of the greatest things in a relationship, so I would tell your boyfriend about it, because it will be better coming from you than the other guy. I'm sure it will probably make Brian upset...but there are greater chances of him forgiving you if you were honest and felt sorry about what you did...

Answer 7

there is a saying, Oh what a tangled web we weave, if at first we are to decieve...... You HAVE to tell Dylan that it is just not right for this to continue, and that you are in love with Brian. If he understands, that should be the end of it, if he does not, then you have to cut off the friendship with him. You love Brian and that is how it should be. He deserves the attention and your love at this juncture. If you are having more feelings towards Dylan, or any other person for that matter, you owe it to Brian to cut if off and let him go free. I know it is hard, and cbless your heart for having to deal with this crap, but one mane per relationship dear..... GOod luck!

Answer 8

have the best of both worlds for a while, your young and are probably not going to be marrying either of these dudes,

Tell dylan that you wan't to continue developing a relationship him while going steady with the other one.

So you don't get branded as a ,s l u t, make it a condition of you seeing him that he keeps it as quiet as the CIA.

There are a few techniques for this here's two:-

1:- tell him you have a family member that is a hardcore mo fo and wont atke no shorts for redemption or
2:- tell him you have a terminal illness and you need to get the most out of life in the 6 months you have left.
(You can easily go into remission later)(Must involve a friend on this one)

HOPE THIS HELPS

Answer 9

if you want to keep you're bf then i would say to tell whats his face to back off and tell him it was a mistake and that you are not interested. now if you are confident that he won't blab about the kiss then keep it a secret, i mean tell no-one, not even you're best friend. these things have a way of becoming public info if you tell even one person. if you think he may find out then you have to tell him because it is less deceitful coming from you. if you admit it it will look less like a conspiracy. if you think you have to tell him, do it alone and at a neutral ground, tell him it was a huge mistake, it meant nothing and you are sooooo sorry. if he accepts this and stays with you don't be surprised if he becomes distrustful and jealous. good luck p.s. telling him will relieve you're guilt but it will cause you're bf pain. ignorance is bliss.

Answer 10

Tell Dylan NO MORE. At least have that much respect for you boyfriend. You made a mistake. If you want to stay with your BF then don't say anything.......BUT, just remember. You've given him a free "kitchen pass" to make a similar mistake. Good luck