If I am going to move on and get out of this slump over an X who is clearly NOT worth it, then I have got to put myself back out there and keep going. Problem......... I have been OUT of the dating seen for the past 4 yrs, and I am shy now and I am scared of the 'BAD' people that just want to hurt others........ and I am not sure how much has changed in the past 4 yrs as far as the dating game and the 'getting noticed and intrests in' has changed......... any valid, kind, and supportive advice would be HIGHLY appreciated. How do I dress, where do I go? Country bars? Hip Hop Bars? Which are more popular now? I seriously have no clue. Thanks
2006-08-24 07:58:48 · 4 answers · asked by shy&gental 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take your time dont rush into anything, theres no time limit you know, just pace yourself, dont be so afraid not everyone is out to hurt someone, trust me you will get back into the dating scene, and take to it like a duck to water...we humans have a habit of conjuring up all this unecessary fear, and 9 times out of 10 we always prove ourselves to be wrong. You should try going out to bars, night clubs, basically places where the atmosphere is buzzing, so you can get involved so to speak, make sure you dress smart, and casual, and remember to smell really nice, people dont realise, a lot of attraction has to do with senses the way a person smells can be intoxicatng, and appealing to the senses, i hope i have helped a little. Good Luck dating again.
2006-08-24 08:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last time that I had to get back into the dating thing was scary. I went to a local hotel/nightclub that was for singles to meet and dancing. I mat a really great person there that was nearly a new wife, but it did not end up that way due to my stupidity. We are still very close and I just received an email from her again today and that was 14 years ago. I alos like the country bars with dancing. It's a chance to meet a lot of people and have a fun night out. It's usually pretty busy, so there is no shortage of people to meet. I suggest that you go with one or more girlfriends and have a good time. In no time, someone will be over asking you to dance. Remamber, it's just a dance and not a commitment for anything more that you don't want. If you two click, sit and talk and get more information and see how it progresses. Good luck to you.
Gary
2006-08-24 15:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where you go depends on what kind of person you are and what you like to do; look to meet "quality" people at clubs, meetings, the gym, the grocery store, the library and other places that are not built for people looking to "hook up".
What is popular might get you easily laid, but it won't get you a meaningful relationship.
2006-08-24 15:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dress like a prep: tight teeshirts, jeans. etc
and it's spelled nice&gentle not nice&gental or w/e u have on there
i would reccommend...hip hop bars! no country bars...puh-lease
2006-08-24 15:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋