There's this guy that I have feelings for and recently we talked and said that he feels the same way...but because we are both going to colleges far away from each other, we've decided to just be "friends" for now....the other night I saw pic of him dancing w/ these other chicks and flirting, having a good time....I felt angry yet sad at the same time, is it wrong for me to feel this way even if we're not together????????
2006-08-24 07:56:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, i forgot to say that when i asked him if he agreed that we were gonna be "just friends" he said "kind of" and when I told him that i was dating someone, as a joke, he later told me that he was hurting.....he confuses me...should i wait and see what time holds ....or just dropping him completely???? Thanks 4 your comments
2006-08-24 08:10:46 · update #1
yes. you're going to make someone's life miserable being jealous, and in the end, you'll probably be arrested for murdering the object of your jealousness.
move on.
2006-08-24 07:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was just dancing, flirting and having a good time. That alone is not indicative of anything romantic. Maybe he is seeing someone where he is going to school. Since you two agreed to be friends, you essentially gave him the green light to see other people. So it isn't technically cheating yet.
So no you should not feel like you have been cheated on. What you do is see other guys. Two can play at that game. Don't deprive yourself just because you are here and he is there. In four years you may not have those same feelings for each other like that. You also shouldn't wait for someone who may never be yours.
2006-08-24 15:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to have feelings of jealousy for him, it sounds like you do really love him in your heart and want him to yourself. However, you need to understand that the two of you are not a couple; the two of you made this decision already.
My advice for you is to forget about him. You are too far apart to share your love for each other and in the end neither of you will remain faithful to a relationship that doesn't really exist.
You're going to make a lot of heartache for yourself if you go on like this.
I advise you to just find someone else in your own college, let yourself fall in love with another. Like you said, he was out dancing and flirting with these other women, so it's very likely he's doing the same where he is. The bottom line is: Don't mire yourself down in something that isn't there. You'll miss new oppurtunities for love.
I know it's going to be hard to do this. You may even hate me for saying it, but it's just my opinion in the matter.
2006-08-24 15:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by McGeezy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you will feel like that because you are human. But yes, it is wrong and a waste of your time to feel sad or jealous or angry about someone you are not together with.
If you are feeling lonely you should meet someone and date. Once you find someone good to hang out with I guarantee he won't even be on your radar anymore.
2006-08-24 15:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by Lyon D. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You have no right to think about any of it. If you decided to have a fling or get together for the summer that would be different, but you didnt. Too bad for you.
2006-08-24 15:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think is wrong for you to feel like this...but at the same time you have to remember that you are not going out with him and you can not do nothin about it....if i was you what i would do is talk to him tell him what you are feelin or what you felt about that pick...tell him that you care for him a lot and that evenn though you aren't his girlfriend it hurts you..... and a lot.....i know it is hard for you but you have to try......i wish you a lot of luck...and i hope everything comes out fine...
2006-08-24 15:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by shy girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aahh gee I thought you both were going to stay just friends? That meant you both can have wild parties and orgies...so why upset ,when you BOTH decided on being friends? Be careful of what you wish for .....
2006-08-30 16:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to feel that way, just don't act appon it. You made your choise. Just wait and see what happens.
2006-08-24 15:10:29 · answer #8 · answered by Err 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until you grow up.
2006-09-01 03:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealous, it hurts ain't it?
2006-08-24 15:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋