My boyfriend and I want to marry, I love him and will never leave him. He is on medication and it controls his symptoms. He has a milder version of the disorder. I have Bipolar II, which is a milder version. I know our kids will most likely have a disorder since it is in both our families. Is there someone out there who loves someone romantically with this disorder who can share tips or cautions or anything that I may not know about triggers or anything?
2006-08-24 07:37:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
For the people who think it is wrong to have kids with a disorder, I was born and have lived and loved and would never change a thing. My lover is the most beautiful person I know and whatever kids we have will be loved and will be given the tools to succeed because we will be prepared from experience to help them through any tough times. By the way mental disorders can attack any child in any family at any time regardless of genetics. So before you condemn others, ask yourself: where would I be without Van Gogh, or Silvia Plath, or Virginia Woolfe or Hunter S. Thompson or any of the other beautiful minds who bring us art, literature and poetry. You closed-minded bigot. Love everyone, even the bigots.
2006-08-24 07:59:39 · update #1
YOUR LOVE IS FOR REAL
2006-08-24 07:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if he doesn't want to take his meds - let him. he maybe needs to go through this, and he will always feel it when he really needs them. but maybe that is not even a question for him.
I just know from my own experience that it was very important for me that people dont force me to take my meds, but that its my decision.
I have had some relapses, but none since 1 1/2 years, nomore hospitalization and now I take my meds when I need them. I feel when the moment comes, and I have accepted it now, but thats just me. I just dont feel comfortable taking them every day. I take them when I need them, thats every 2,3 days, sometimes a week. I dont know your boyfriend, maybe he's over it, but for some it takes some time to accept it.
as for triggers, there are none that I would know of except stress.
If you go somewhere and he wants to leave maybe because he has voices or so, then leave with him, thats about it.
and I have also heard that schizophrenics need enough time and space for themselves. Myself I have never noticed that, maybe because I have enough of it...
just love him it's good!
PS: one could think we're some kind of monsters when off the meds for a while...people are so scared about it, its unbelievable...tell him right away that its his decision and resposnability, its more likely that he will take them than if he's being forced by everybody around him, cuz that sucks. My mom always said its up to me. Love you mom.
2006-08-24 14:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need an excellent support network. Both conditions are insightless, so you will have to rely on each other to see each others' symptoms.
Perhaps you could consider counselling before bringing a child into the world if you think it will have a disorder?
2006-08-24 14:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by medium_of_dance 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definitely should know alot of things. Read up on his condition and your own, talk to Dr.'s, take the prescribed meds., don't do drugs or drink, if you can help it. If it's truly love you can work through most issues that arise but knowing what you have and learning about it is important. And very important if you do have children, what to look for, ways you can help them grow as normally and happy as possible.
2006-08-24 14:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by Susi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have someone you trust visit you in a regular basis. NEVER let him stop his medications. Keep your regular medical visits on schedule. And if you notice or see any behavior changes in him or you, call immediately that trusted someone to help you out before it becomes a crisis.
And love does overcomes everything, so make sure you both always love!!
2006-08-24 14:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you both do not stop taking your meds. The meds and your genetic history will definitely affect any child you two have and not in a good way. Have you considered not having children or adoption? I chose not having children.
2006-08-24 14:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by Caffeinated 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something you need to know?
His psychiatrist's phone number and the number of the local hospital mental health inpatients ward would be a good start. Just in case, you understand.
2006-08-24 14:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by metavariable 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just always be aware of the nearest exit.
2006-08-24 14:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Please do not have children! How could you knowing that they would have this disease as well. It is totally irresponsible to bring a child into this world knowing that he/she will have mental problems.
2006-08-24 14:44:11 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
just don't let him get paranoid you should figure it out how you should act or not act
2006-08-24 14:42:03 · answer #10 · answered by alzghiasi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋