my sister got her first cell phone in the beginning of 8th grade. and she got her laptop in the middle of 8th grade. now it is my turn to get my cell phone since im in 8th grade, but my mom said im getting it in 10th, then i asked for a laptop, and she said ill get that in 11th grade, my sister already broke and/or lost all her 6 phones in 1 year, and my mom is going to buy her another one, and she going to rub it in my face that im going to get it in 10th grade. my mom always treats me like im invisible. my dream was to be an actress, or a model, but no one cares! my sister always gets whatever she wants and then persuades my mom so i dont get what i want. she always makes fun of me and she always says that shes better than me in every way and that im always wrong. and if i say anything to her my mom will kill me! and my mom thinks shes a hard working girl when she has the worst grades like D's and F's and i get A's and B's and shes been lying to my mom that she had a BF for 5 months!
2006-08-24 07:36:35 · 11 answers · asked by angela k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Because misery loves company and family has aplenty.
2006-08-24 07:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by Apollo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're the one your parents can depend on. However, your sister is setting the pace. Here's what I mean: Your parents are trying what they think will work with your sister and when it doesn't go so well, they adjust with you. I was the oldest and my parents were strict with me. When that went well; they were easier with the younger kids. You can bet that I didn't think that was fair either. Your mom probably treats you like your invisible because she knows she doesn't have to worry about you. Don't change! Your sister is getting all the attention now because Mom is desperately trying to get her in line. Mom needs you to be the rock you are! Keep your dreams and focus on them. Don't ask for a cel phone or a laptop, ask for something that would help you achieve your dreams. Maybe private acting or modeling lessons. Give your sister the message that you could care less about the things she has and you will pull the rug right out from under her. Pick an area that your sister can't, or won't, compete in and she won't be able to compare and say she is better than you.
2006-08-24 08:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Nora Explora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like your mother is playing favorites, but there are always two sides to every story. The "I want to be an actress but no one cares" is a typical 8th-grade-girl thing to say. Oh, the drama! The fact that your older sister gives you a hard time is also very typical.
Have you thought of talking to your mother about this? Maybe she doesn't realize she's being unfair. Is there a father in the picture you could speak to?
Present this to your mother (and/or father) in a mature way. Make your case and don't whine.
2006-08-24 07:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother obviously plays favorites and that is really a shame. Just keep your head up and keep getting good grades. It will pay off for you in the end. don't give up on your dreams either. Even though the people in your life that are supposed to be the MOST supportive are not, that doesn't mean you should give up. You will be grown soon enough. The sweetest victory will be when you can stand on your own two feet and your sister is still living with mom and dad when she is 30 and working at McDonald's!
2006-08-24 07:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey hun don't worry about it!
These are just wordly possessions.
And if you want them bad enough, you can try getting a job to pay for them.
Short of that, your sister may be manipulative.... ask your parents what she has said about you. Have a talk with your family.
This may be the key: "my sister already broke and/or lost all her 6 phones in 1 year" Your sister has proven herself to be very unreliable and costly. Your parents probably don't wanna go through all the drama again. You have to persuade them that you are responsible and that you can handle (and need) expensive objects.
2006-08-24 07:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by kenny_the_bomb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom doesn't want you to be miserable. Your sister just feels so crappy about herself that she hopes to not be the lowest person in the house.
Lack of a cell phone isn't going to kill you. Neither is lack of a cell phone. Believe it or not, many of us reading your question got all the way through school without these things :-) (They weren't invented yet.)
If a cell phone is that important to you, get your own. You're treasure it a lot more than if mommy and daddy bought it for you, anyway, and can take pride in what it took to get one.
2006-08-24 07:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by jplrvflyer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey I understand sister rivalry. Surely I would say one day Your mom would understand you.But u know what Your mom will surely love you. Dont think she doesn't love you.Parents love their kids.
U try to be love and patience with them. If u start complaining you would never achieve anything in life.
U have some dreams try to achieve it. U do some part time job so u can buy u r cell .
All the best.
2006-08-24 07:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by angel_77m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I ask myself that question everyday! It seems my brother and older sisters are better then me. I was alwasy pushed aside and still am today! They are in their late 30 to early 40's now and still get what they want. It is a part of life that I will never undertsand but I will never do that to my own children! The perfect child always gets the short end of the stick!
2006-08-24 07:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I always felt that I was not loved at home. One day your sister is going to need you and maybe you will choose not to be there for her. I hope everything works out for you. I now refer to my sister as "my mother's other child". Because I have no connection to her at all. I have no feelings for her,. I know that is terrible but a lot of damage has been done. I don't have any advise for you but please hang in there. Your life will be better that your sisters. Hold on to your dreams and don't let them get you down.. One day I'll see you on TV. God Bless.
2006-08-24 07:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by cranky_gut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what family can be rude and hurtful but you know what you know who you are and what you are capable off..... do not let them stop your dreams,,,,, don't let them deny you of your happiness, you deserve the best there is out there, and you will get what you deserve when the time is right, do not be mad because your parents are ignorent, look past that and move on and be a better person
2006-08-24 08:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's ****ed up! Tell your mom you NEED to talk to her and tell her all of this. Even better, show her this question. Your sister sounds terrible! There needs to be justice and it's up to you to bring it. Good luck!
2006-08-24 07:44:27 · answer #11 · answered by songbird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋