ok, let me start off by saying im 20, i dhad my heart broken last year, im a christain, i dont know how i feal about love anymore. ok i guess thats all you need to know on the background. so heres whats up.
well i just met this girl and weve gone on a date, and she is just so perfect, we are exactly alike, we like the same things, she is the most beautiful thing ive ever seen. weve been talking now for only a week. we hung out tuesday and wensday, but i just feal like ive known her forever.
well, with me being the realist that i am, i have to back up and wonder whats going on. i know that ive been struck witht the love bug, but am i rushing things, i just cant stop thinking about this girl and i want things to work out so badly, so what does yahoo think. and please dont give me any stupid answers like hit it and quit it or something.
is it alright to fall for someone so quickly or do i need to slow down. im excited but at the same time im just waiting for something to go bad
2006-08-24 07:32:57 · 24 answers · asked by ross e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds amazing, just go with what you're feeling, even if you think you're moving too fast. But just keep in mind somewhere that the faster and harder you fall, the more it'll hurt if something goes wrong.
2006-08-24 07:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by tazzu27 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honestly, at 20 you dont know the real meaning of love. Love does not just happen. what happens at your age in a short span is a desire to have. I dont want to be as crude as terming it 'lust'. Love cannot happen just like that - in two weeks. Love happens over a long period of time. Once you accept without question each other with their weaknesses and shortcomings, once you respect each others individuality and personalities, once you begin to genuinely care for each other's growth and development in life, then love comes along. This notion that love happened one day, another day heart broke, and yet another day it happened again - IS JUST NOT LOVE. I am sure you cannot understand exactly what I am saying when you are 20 - but when you grow older eventually you will.
The point is - if you like somebody and she likes you, make an attempt to learn and accept all the good and the bad qualities she has. If you cannot accept something about her and feel strongly about it - it is not love - you just want her, and you want her to be the way you see fit. You seem to be intelligent and quite mature at 20 because you have questioned yourself as to whether you are going too fast. Yes. Go slow - there is a long life ahead of you - why the hurry. Give each other enough time to know each other better. When things go sour is it not our own fault for not knowing better about the other? Good luck.
2006-08-24 07:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to slow down a bit....you've known her for a week, which i think is not enough...spend more time with her (like a month) and then you'll know for sure....maybe she has other colours to her personality that you havent seen yet...hence why i say a month or more should do the trick
And why are you waiting for something to go bad? Have you heard of a theory called 'Murphy's Law'? It states that whatever you think will go bad, WILL go bad in reality....so enjoy the time you have with her and hope for the best
By the way, do giver her hints along the way, just so that she knows that you want to be with her...
2006-08-24 07:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by Angel_like 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get love and infatuation confused. Be very careful or you may just scare her off and you will be left with a broken heart again. You can't possibly know enough about eachother yet to know if she is all that you say she is. Give it time and cool it down for a while. Good luck, this is a fun time in a relationship.
2006-08-24 07:37:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ferosia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are love struck...and it is not a foolish thing...and if your a real realist...you should realize there is no such thing as love at first sight...i'm going to refraze your last parragraph and i hope it helps you out...
it alright to fall for someone so quickly...if your heart is true...sounds like it is...yes you do need to slow down...but not with how your heart feels...stay excited and just WAIT for something good to happen...becarefull on how much of your heart you give her on the verbal level...actions speak louder and truer than words...good luck
2006-08-24 07:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by GyVuPhaYs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First has your heart been repaired? If so then we can proceed.
If not, make sure your feelings are not being stirred by what is happening now by brining up past feeling. Clue for me is that you want it to happen so badly.
We can not govern how and when we fall in love. Let me say that it happens anytime or place.
Is she a Christian? If so, the spiritual connection could be very strong now. Develop that first and foremost.
Also enjoy what's happening and keep praying and seeking a friend's counsel who knows you well and can give you objective feedback.
I have had God use others who I have feelings for help me to heal even with a very strong insensity of feelings for them. God has also blessed them with that interchange of love to help them in some way to grow as well.
That's not to say that this is the relationship for you long term. Take your time and enjoy your time with her and watch God do what he wants to do with your relationship with her. He is the only one who can join two people together and you will know in your heart for he will show you.
Be at peace as much as you can.
2006-08-24 07:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would try to slow down just a bit to make sure she feels the same about you. It's only been a week, so just give the relationship a little more time to develop before you fall head over heels.
2006-08-24 07:38:42 · answer #7 · answered by girly81681 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, boy, I know what you're talking about for I've been through the same thing. All I can say is that you could continue to dream about her as much as you want as long as you don't let her know that you're this obsessed with her. Of course, go ahead and show your affection to her, but don't overdo it and scare her away. Over time, you'll know whether she's actually meant for you or not.
2006-08-24 07:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by blunt_yet_sharp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slow down, relax, and take the relationship as it comes. Don't wait for things to go wrong - or expect everything to be perfect. You set yourself up for disappointment that way. Handle issues if/when they come and in the meantime, enjoy it for what it is.
Be happy :)
2006-08-24 07:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand. Its like too good to be true. Slow down alittle, if it is going to work out, take it slow. No need to rush. You can be in love, but just be smart about it and take it easy. I hope it works out tho. sounds like a match made in heaven!!
2006-08-24 07:37:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what feels right to you! I just had a girl move to another city for me in a matter of two months cuz we felt the same way. There is a little more history to it than that, but it's the same thing.
2006-08-24 07:35:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋