my partner has a very negative view of life and the world and becomes obsessed with negative thoughts
2006-08-24 07:25:57 · 14 answers · asked by martirio 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Negative thought relief: He is creating his own hell.
He has to change his own outlook on life so he needs positive feedback and you also need to tell him what you see in his behavior....Let him stew...Go to the bookstore drag him along and look at the self-help psychology books and spirituality section...There are loads of resources there...good luck
2006-08-24 07:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by Tabor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, this just may be your partner's personality. However if you are noticing that they are having extremely obsessive behaviors then I would have them contact their doctor or seek therapy. If it's just something they have recently fallen into then it might just be a phase and they would benefit from you asking them what might help cheer them up. Also, getting your partner out in public and exposing them to positive things is always a good thing to help distract a persons negative thoughts. Hang in there! THey are blessed to have you in their lives...Don't get caught up with that persons negative thoughts You remain positive and optimistic. People learn from our behaviors as well!
2006-08-24 07:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by prettybird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. If your partner is that extreme, then every thing you do to cheer him/her up will back fire-he/she will chose to see that cheering up attitude as something negative about you- you're trying too hard to change them. Being obsessed with negative thoughts is not good for your relationship though, your partner needs professional help.
2006-08-24 07:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by BB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the secret about negative people, is they have a very bad opinion about themselves to begin with. There are several things you could do, however, keep in mind, it's not your job to cheer them up. You are taking on a losing battle if you take this on as your responsibility. First you can ask them why they have this attitude to begin with, it might give you some insight as to how they became this way. Second, get them into counseling, not joking. Do not make this your life's mission or you'll set yourself up for failure.
2006-08-24 07:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by mercymarie3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not easily done. Get him to make a list of 5 to 10 things he likes about himself. In addition every time he has a negative thought make him write it down. He might restist at first, but what you are trying to make him see that his thoughts are absurd. Because he thinks that any mistake he makes is an unforgiveable sun. Although his ideas are absurd, they create a real feeling. If you want to learn more, I would read up on cognective therapy. GoodLuck.
2006-08-24 07:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by billymike1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my God! my dad is the same way trust me....he is always negative,scared and obsesive about everything we do and he does..dont go here ,dont do this,dont talk infront of people this way n if u go far by walking some one might do this and that n dont know what elz too...because of this my elder sister is just like him...and i hate it trust me..because i am strong n what's going to happen is going to happen...frm my side Go get ur partner help before everything is over
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2016-11-27 19:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could only tell u the chances are greater they will drag you down faster than u can pull them up. maybe you should start looking for more positive people to be around, negativity is contagious and very draining on the mind and soul.
2006-08-24 07:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. MIne is too. Somehow he thinks nobody ever has a bad day but him. Nobody is ever tired or has to work but him. You can't even pamper him or try to make things better or do something for him to take the load off....it's allllll bad ya know?
2006-08-24 07:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by jescl32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs therapy. You may mean well, but just "cheering up" doesn't work when someone is seriously depressed. I've been there myself, and counselling and antidepressants helped me immensely.
2006-08-24 07:29:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋