my girl and i have been going strong through high school the last 2 years...now with college coming up...she says she is not sure anymore about us....says its her not me.....i told her i would respect any decision she would make....and told her i would always be there for her......but i dont want to lose her....she is an amazing girl....i love her....and i want to be with her......i tell her this all the time.......so what should my next move be....say something....take her out to a special place...i have an idea of what i am going to say and do....but any advice would be great....thank you for listening to me.
2006-08-24 07:13:58 · 14 answers · asked by Shadows 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you just need to both grow up a little bit (don't mean to say you are immature or acting that way)
You most likely have been dating since you were 16 or so, I suggest you stay friends, at least keep in touch and see where life takes you both.
Peace!
2006-08-24 07:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship, when one expresses the need to move out, it must be considered very carefully by the other. Snap out of your dream world and see the reality. You dont have to lose her friendship. If you truely love her, then you must just let her go. Any amount of talking to and pleasing with gifts or special places will only add to your pain when she leaves anyway. It appears she has her mind into something else (not necessarily someone). Maybe she is maturing and thinks that its time to get serious with studies and college and becoming a professional. She is indeed amazing. Follow in her footsteps. Get serious about college yourself. Who knows - you might get her back later in life when both of you are independent. It will be sweeter then - thats a promise. Good luck.
2006-08-24 14:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say Shadows but when we say is not you is me. it really is you, starting college and meeting other guys and looking around at what else is available she wants some alone time to have fun be single. 2 yrs going strong with you, for her it just got played out.
You might also need some time alone, and meet other hotties that are available. College years are precious and unforgettable, so give her the chance to explore and if it was meant to be it will be if not things happen for a reason and you might even look back and thank her for the decision.
Good luck and have fun.
2006-08-24 14:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to break out on her own. You both are going to be separated once you go to college, and even if you aren't its a very different experience from high school. You have a freedom you didn't have in high school and there are older guys and prettier, more experienced girls. She may be trying to brace herself. You may not feel the way does now, but eventually things will change. And you guys will "drift apart" and we all know long distance relationships do not work.
Trying to hold on to her will only make her push away harder.
2006-08-24 14:16:20 · answer #4 · answered by tiger_lilly33186 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sine you are both going off to college she just wants to spread her wings. Tell her you want to take a break for a while and if you meet someone else let her know. That is what she is trying to tell you without having to say it out loud.
2006-08-24 14:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Back-off. Give yourselves time to see other people for a while. You have been together since high school. If it is meant to be you will come back together. Don't tie yourselves down before you have lived a little. Marriage and forever are complicated. Divorce is awful.
2006-08-24 14:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by CuervoBMed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to be unsure about what the futute holds after H.S.
My H.S boyfriend did the same thing to me, I cried and got over it.
The first week away in the dorms, I started to forget him, even though I never would have predicted it.
Well guess what! He wanted me back for two years, I was the one who lost interest.
Just remember that, you may feel differently yourself tommorrow.
2006-08-24 14:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by chicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you just let her go. No matter how hard you try or love her, she will still do what she wants. And if she doesn't want to be with you then you'll just end up hurting yourself. Don't do that to yourself. If she wants to go, let her. There alot of girls out there. Good job in letting her know that you'll always be there. She'll realize sooner or later what she lost.
2006-08-24 14:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by Susa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try spicing up the love life and keep her guessing that is where the boredom comes from BUT let her know that you still LOVE HER and always will leave her little notes around saying things.... hopefully you understand what I'm saying. all the answers ar good so far
2006-08-24 14:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by dalmation60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can take her somewhere exiting buy two cruise tickets and go to the bahamas remebr have awesome s e x let her know ur not boring and that if she leaves you she will be losing alot
2006-08-24 14:18:32 · answer #10 · answered by lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋