Are you like me, sick and tired of so called studies?

Question

I'm referring to things like spanking, toilet training, etc. Studies say a parent should never spank, oh no, just let your kids run freely with no direction, no guidelines, and no authority. I don't think so.

My kids are well behaved and yes I spank, so what's up with these asinine studies anyway? And who writes them? I think common direction and disipline is what lacks in our society today, and it's exactly why no one has any respect for anyone else these days.

Answer 1

Thank God for people like you...I am the same way...that's how my parents raised me and I am raising my children the same way. You know what I hate to...those people who say not to let the babies cry themselves to sleep or say that spanking is out of hate. I wish they'd only know it's out of love. For me I do what I feel is right and I think that's the best thing to go by...that's what parenting is about. I trust the "old" way of doing things...everyone I know was raised that way and all of us are alright: well rounded, independent, smart, moral, and secure people. All these studies...it seems to me that they make the kids run the show intead of the parents. Don't know if that makes sense but I TOTALLY agree!

Answer 2

You seem uneducated to be against studies. How would you think the world survives without studies. There is a big reason for it. I think you are mad about what studies have to say psychologically especially when it comes to spanking because you disagree that it is wrong. Go ahead and spank all you want. Just don't come crying to the psychologists about why your children are angry at you when they are adults. And just because studies say not to spank doesn't mean they say it is okay to let your kids run wild with no directions. Spanking is just a lazy way of parenting. But of course you probably haven't studied child development in school. You seem to not respect parents that don't spank. Sick and tired of studies? Does the truth hurt a little? You are probably one of those mothers that smoked while pregnant and still does living in a trailor. What about those studies? Smoking while pregnant proves alot of problems exist in children. But maybe you don't care.

Answer 3

Sick of studies, yes. But, I'm not a spanker, neither is my hubby and our kids don't run freely, lack discipline, guidelines or disrespect others. There is more than one way to correct a child without resorting to violence. Personal choice for a parent, though, as long as it's not all out abuse.

Answer 4

I totally agree. We have spanked our kids and they are very well disciplined and well mannered. While on the other hand, I have friends who don't believe in spanking and their kids are holy terrors. It's not like you have to spank often...kids are alot smarter than people think. They usually figure it out fairly quickly.

We also use other forms of discipline, such as:
time out, going to bed early, no TV, no dessert, etc. as well as positive reinforcement by rewarding them when they do right. It is definatly a balance.

Answer 5

You may be shocked to know that.....GASP.....you can teach your kids to be well behaved WITHOUT spanking them! Not spanking DOES NOT mean that you don't teach your children what appropriate behavior is.