where a ex-boyfriend lived. She wanted to met up with him because they were "friends" still. 4 months later she confesses she slept with him and felt guilty about after it happened. What would you do?
2006-08-24 07:05:13 · 35 answers · asked by stunston 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She did say at that time she wanted to see other people...
2006-08-24 07:42:55 · update #1
Dump her shell keep doing it
2006-08-24 07:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by chikita4652 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer to this question already and your just probing for some assurance in making the right decision. Thats fine with me....I woulda done the same...
Bye Bye Girlfriend....It may hurt for a while but it's all part of the healing process sweety. Clearly the respect and dignity was lost....YES she was honest with you. But it should have never happened. How can she look you in the eyes or make love to you while she kept it from you? Dont waste your time hun...Plenty of other girls that will give you all of their TLC. You may say no one is like her and you may be right....Someone will actually just be better and worth your time...She may have been fine in all other aspects but she still cheated...that to me falls under lies, secrets, and untrustworthy.
Women can be just as sneaky as men. And she knew what she was doing and what "might" happen if she would go to the same city as her ex. Hell it happened and she only told you because she probably realized that you are great to her and she doesnt wanna lose you, and her ex is in another city. The guilt got to her and she couldnt bear it anymore so she told you....hm, how convenient and nice of her.
Very deceitful indeed. I just hope you dont go doing the same thing to someone else now that you actually experienced it and it's pain and confusion. Not like you woulda in the first place, right? lol...What do you think? Good Luck...Have a nice day hun....
2006-08-24 07:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Cloe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have too agree with everyone else once a cheater always a cheater .. how convenient that an ex- boyfriend lived there also how did you verify the trip was on the up and up? let her go too many nice girls that don't cheat out here for you...
2006-08-24 08:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by tinker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll be going on other business trips and be sleeping with people then too. She is not in love with you...just using you for the time being until something better comes along. Sorry. I would dump her and find someone who respects you.
2006-08-24 07:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by belladonna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was really disrespectful of her. You cannot trust her at the moment. Find out why it took 4 months to tell. It will take a lot of work to get the trust back
2006-08-24 07:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by maddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you had done the same thing what would you want her to do. Is the relationship strong enough to work through this? How much do you care for her? If you want to remain together some counseling may be in order.
2006-08-24 07:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by CuervoBMed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's telling you just because she feels guilty. She looked for him even when she knew she was in danger of oding something wrong. hes old enough to take reponsability. Dump that cheater. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-08-24 07:09:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to hear that! but if you had to verify her trip , you must have had trust issues with her all ready. Right?? so lose the cheater and begin to heal your broken heart, cuz nothing will ever be the same with her anymore. you will find someone who is worthy of your love and trust!!!
2006-08-24 07:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably break up with her, or forgive her. If it has been 4 months and you have been with her unknowing, but wondered about it inside, then you must truley love her. Maybe you can get past it. But, I would be like, NO MORE TALKING TO HIM, and if you have to go there again, I will be accompanying you. Good Luck, bro!
2006-08-24 07:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her, believe me, as a woman ,i can tell you the minute she knew she was going to the same city she made up her mind right then if she was gonna screw him or not. she plannede it, and lied in your face for 4 months, thats 4 months of hiding and disrespect, dump the ho
2006-08-24 07:08:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she really sorry or is she going to sleep with him again? If she really is sorry and she says she wont do it again you should forgive her but keep an eye on her. But if a boyfriend did that to me I would dump him!
2006-08-24 07:09:26 · answer #11 · answered by steph 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋